We saw the ARNP on Friday afternoon - and because of problems with two different medications we had tried this year, they are now starting her on a mood stabilizer. Unfortunately, it was late and I couldn't get the new rx filled - so will fill it today. I have always been scared that her behavior leaned toward the bipolar side. Her mother is bipolar (we adopted our granddaughter)
This weekend was rough. We (the females in the family) went to our churches women and girls weekend retreat on Saturday and Sunday. Usually her behavior is good in front of other people. But yesterday she got obnoxious to me when our pastor (female) was there and we were getting ready to take the canoes out for a bit. Then on the way home, her little sister tried to talk to her nicely about how she felt about how difficult child had treated her - cutting in line, throwing her panties around the bath house, screaming at her while she was playing a game to distract her so the other team could win, etc. Remember this is "church" camp... and all the activities were about friendship and cooperation, etc. Well, difficult child lost it - and except for a terse "I'm sorry and I am not going to say I'm sorry again so forget about it and stop talking". I reminded difficult child that when she is upset, she expects us all to listen until she is done unloading on us. difficult child got more upset and I told her we would have talk about in when we got home, she kept wanting to give us attitude all the way home. I told her this wasn't the time or place. She said it's a long ride, so this is as good as any. Finally, I said, fine, we would talk. I then apologized to the friend in the car with us that I was sorry for difficult child's anger and behavior and that in the future, it might be best not to do things with us as it isn't much fun when we all get upset. difficult child's jaw dropped and she cried most the way home. Later last night, she admitted that she just "wanted to win".
Most arguments are like that. But, mostly they are at home and not in front of other people. I hope the new rx works - I don't remember the name and the script is downstairs. I REALLY hope we are on the right track. I am so tired of this life. KSM
This weekend was rough. We (the females in the family) went to our churches women and girls weekend retreat on Saturday and Sunday. Usually her behavior is good in front of other people. But yesterday she got obnoxious to me when our pastor (female) was there and we were getting ready to take the canoes out for a bit. Then on the way home, her little sister tried to talk to her nicely about how she felt about how difficult child had treated her - cutting in line, throwing her panties around the bath house, screaming at her while she was playing a game to distract her so the other team could win, etc. Remember this is "church" camp... and all the activities were about friendship and cooperation, etc. Well, difficult child lost it - and except for a terse "I'm sorry and I am not going to say I'm sorry again so forget about it and stop talking". I reminded difficult child that when she is upset, she expects us all to listen until she is done unloading on us. difficult child got more upset and I told her we would have talk about in when we got home, she kept wanting to give us attitude all the way home. I told her this wasn't the time or place. She said it's a long ride, so this is as good as any. Finally, I said, fine, we would talk. I then apologized to the friend in the car with us that I was sorry for difficult child's anger and behavior and that in the future, it might be best not to do things with us as it isn't much fun when we all get upset. difficult child's jaw dropped and she cried most the way home. Later last night, she admitted that she just "wanted to win".
Most arguments are like that. But, mostly they are at home and not in front of other people. I hope the new rx works - I don't remember the name and the script is downstairs. I REALLY hope we are on the right track. I am so tired of this life. KSM