The starter on husband's car is beginning to go out. The first time was 2 weeks ago. I was not going into the office that day, so I told him to take mine and I'd drive the truck. For giggles, when I left, I tried his car. Started right up. So I've been driving his car for 2 weeks. Last week, I worked from home and between trips to school and the library and the little grocery store, I started it 8-16 times a day. It stalled the first and only time on Thursday afternoon. I used a long screwdriver to tap the starter a couple times and it starrted right up. If it was my car, I would not drop $200 on the starter just yet. I'd wait til it was a more common problem. Anyway, Wee spent a couple hours at grandma's on Friday afternoon. I was picking him up when husband got home. He wanted the horses up, and he drove my car back into the pasture to get the horses! The only decent/nice vehicle we own, and it sits low to the ground and is front wheel drive, and he's driving it through the rutted out lane to the back pasture...OMG, I was fit to be tied. He just didn't see anything wrong with it, he drove slow, he said. I said no more. Out of that car. Told him I'd been driving his with very few problems, but he could spend the money on the starter if he wanted, I didn't care, but he was NOT tearing up my car. And then I asked the million dollar question. So...when's it due for an oil change? He said he thought easy child 1 and I changed it. Uh, yeah, we did. Last DECEMBER when we bought it. We had a nice chat about how he checked the oil in the car difficult child 1 drove every other day, but how he also never checked it or changed it wihen he drove that same car, and where that same car is today. And now he's had THIS car for almost a year and has never changed the oil. He brought up his truck, how I had said I would find a transmission for it....which I did...I also said I was not willing to pay to put a brand new transmission in that truck...and I put that ball in his court when it became clear that buying a new transmission was about the only option and I was not willing to drop $4-5k into a 20 year old truck with a motor that doesn't run like it should; but he was welcome to. And its only been the past 6 months that I've taken part of his paycheck for bills....he could have done something different if he'd opted and footed the bill. It wasn't a pretty night in my house, but he left in his car this morning. This makes me so angry. Why would anyone expect someone else to keep track of and perform routine maintenance on a vehicle they don't drive? Ok, thanks for letting me vent.