Shari
IsItFridayYet?
I posted last week about easy child 2 lying about her science homework again. In the course of the conversation, she claimed to have turned it in but the teacher didn't grade it, among other excuses which weren't her fault. We asked her if she'd told the teacher she was turning in make-up work, to which she said no, she didn't. I reminded her that it was her job to get the assignments from the teacher, and get the assigments to the teacher, and point them out, if she needs to. Then, husband took her to school early to make up the work and she didn't go to the classroom and then lied about that, too, at one point even claiming her dad didn't tell her why she went to school early (he did. In fact, we both did). She spent all day Saturday doing homework.
***
On Monday night, back at her mom's, she called and asked me to bring her science book and notebook to her at school on Tuesday. She'd forgotten it at our house. I did.
***
She was with us again last night. husband asked her if she'd turned in her homework. She said she had on Tuesday. He asked her if it was graded. She got snappy and said she didn't know. He asked if she told the teacher it was make-up work. No, she hadn't. He asked her how the teacher was supposed to know to look back FOUR MONTHS and grade old assignments. She didn't know, nor did she care. I asked her why she didn't tell the teacher. After shrugging her shoulders five or six times, she finally said she didn't want to.
***
So, I'm done. Once these assignments are graded and the one she is missing in her other class is made up, I will not look at her grades any more. If she fails, so be it. She's already gauranteed herself a spot in summer school again this year, which she hates, but too bad. I know she has learning problems, and I'm sorry, but if she won't help herself, there's nothing I can do to help her, and I'm done trying.
***
I will continue to address the lying. If I ask her if she did something and she blames it on another person (the teacher didn't grade it, the teacher wont' tell me my assignments, dad didn't tell me why I went to school early), I will march her to the presence of that person and ask the question again. If she's caught lying, she will muck more stalls. She already has an old chicken house to clean out over Christmas break for this latest round.
***
But as far as school work, I'm done.
***
She got to our house last night and called in panic cause she'd left an assignment at school, so I rushed home to drive her to school to get the missing assignment before the building closed. She left this morning and left 5 papers in 3 different locations at our house (2 different places on the couch and by the computer). She also left a folder under the monitor, her poetry book in her box with her Bratz dolls, her flash drive in the computer, and her reading book on the counter. I will not go out of my way to deliver them. If her mom wants to drive her to our house to get them, fine, but I am done trying. I have helped her organize the shelves in her room with a place for everything, including her homework, and even when husband or I remind her to go put her things there, she doesn't...(as you can see by the location of the above items)...what more do we do?
***
The other thing I'm done with is her jeans. I bought her 5 pairs of jeans in September. She wears her gym shorts to our house from school, but doesn't bring the jeans she wore TO school that day, then wears jeans to school the next day. So we gain a pair of gym shorts and lose a pair of jeans. She has 1 pair of jeans at our house now. I have told her for the past 4 weeks to bring jeans from her mom's, even called her to remind her, but she doesn't. She is going to enjoy washing her clothes every day at Christmas break, 'cause, again, I'm not going to do it.
***
Am I totally mean?
***
On Monday night, back at her mom's, she called and asked me to bring her science book and notebook to her at school on Tuesday. She'd forgotten it at our house. I did.
***
She was with us again last night. husband asked her if she'd turned in her homework. She said she had on Tuesday. He asked her if it was graded. She got snappy and said she didn't know. He asked if she told the teacher it was make-up work. No, she hadn't. He asked her how the teacher was supposed to know to look back FOUR MONTHS and grade old assignments. She didn't know, nor did she care. I asked her why she didn't tell the teacher. After shrugging her shoulders five or six times, she finally said she didn't want to.
***
So, I'm done. Once these assignments are graded and the one she is missing in her other class is made up, I will not look at her grades any more. If she fails, so be it. She's already gauranteed herself a spot in summer school again this year, which she hates, but too bad. I know she has learning problems, and I'm sorry, but if she won't help herself, there's nothing I can do to help her, and I'm done trying.
***
I will continue to address the lying. If I ask her if she did something and she blames it on another person (the teacher didn't grade it, the teacher wont' tell me my assignments, dad didn't tell me why I went to school early), I will march her to the presence of that person and ask the question again. If she's caught lying, she will muck more stalls. She already has an old chicken house to clean out over Christmas break for this latest round.
***
But as far as school work, I'm done.
***
She got to our house last night and called in panic cause she'd left an assignment at school, so I rushed home to drive her to school to get the missing assignment before the building closed. She left this morning and left 5 papers in 3 different locations at our house (2 different places on the couch and by the computer). She also left a folder under the monitor, her poetry book in her box with her Bratz dolls, her flash drive in the computer, and her reading book on the counter. I will not go out of my way to deliver them. If her mom wants to drive her to our house to get them, fine, but I am done trying. I have helped her organize the shelves in her room with a place for everything, including her homework, and even when husband or I remind her to go put her things there, she doesn't...(as you can see by the location of the above items)...what more do we do?
***
The other thing I'm done with is her jeans. I bought her 5 pairs of jeans in September. She wears her gym shorts to our house from school, but doesn't bring the jeans she wore TO school that day, then wears jeans to school the next day. So we gain a pair of gym shorts and lose a pair of jeans. She has 1 pair of jeans at our house now. I have told her for the past 4 weeks to bring jeans from her mom's, even called her to remind her, but she doesn't. She is going to enjoy washing her clothes every day at Christmas break, 'cause, again, I'm not going to do it.
***
Am I totally mean?