Hello guys, This has been weighing on my mind and my dear friend is actually waiting for a couple of answers from me, so I thought I would go to the best. A little background. I am going to try to keep it as limited as possible because I do not want them to ever be identified in the future. So, my dear friend is in her late 60's. She has six children, all of which, difficult child's. Only two of them recovered and are now doing really well in life. The other four, are really bad most of their lives. All now in their thirties and still reeking all kinds of havoc. Drugs, prison, very toxic drama and they all live off of Mama and her frail bones. Mama is and has been a hard worker all of her life, never stopped working , still working while the rest mooch, steal, total every new car she gets and all of that good stuff. How I know her is because I use to be really good friends with her difficult child back in the day. She never learned to detached, I don't think it ever crossed her mind. I plan on digging deeper to find out what that is about. I have major respect for her so I try not to push too hard but I am planning on finding out what her reasons were for continuing this for so long. Anyway, here is the problem. She is the legal guardian for one of her difficult child's children (her grandchildren) One is an early teen, the other one a little bit younger. So far, by the grace of God, they are not getting into trouble. In fact, the older one (girl) is doing really well in school and band. Problem is, for a lack of better term, she is a 'homely' girl. Didn't inherit the greatest genes (at all) as far as that is concerned and has almost zero friends. It's really sad, especially given her mother is a complete drug addict and has no interest in her well being. The girl does have one friend, but that friend seems to be trouble. She has been friends with her for over a year and has managed to be able to be friends with her and not get into trouble or do the bad things that friend is doing. However, granddaughter is starting to dress "gothic" and the grandmother is not sure about allowing her to continue being friends with troubled friend. If granddaughter loses this friend, she risks being in isolation and anti social because no one else will be friends with her and that sometimes can be a fate worse than death, especially for a teenager. What to do? The grandmother is trying to come up with a decision by the end of this weekend. If anyone took the time to read this long winded story, I appreciate just that much. Thank you.