My difficult child is 13 yrs old and in 7th grade she is high functioning autistic.... we have an IEP in place and last year when she started she was hit on the back by an 8th grader coming out of a school assembly when the 8th grade girl and her other friends began making fun of her she turned around and and hit the 8th grade girl that punched her and it turned into a fight all the kids surronded the two girls and yelled "fight fight" difficult child walked away... No school personel stopped this fight both girls were sent to the office and my difficult child was expelled for the rest of the day and the next day ....VP said it was unfortunate that there was not enough adults available to watch for these things... We agreed at IEP meeting that difficult child would be given 3min head start in between classes to avoid crowds and also for lunch lines.... I had stated that all adults that came into contact with difficult child should be made aware that difficult child shuts down and will not speak when in melt down or something like this happens... Now this year a week ago difficult child was late coming out of school so my husband called her cell phone difficult child said she was in the office to come get her my husband walked into office and the office ladies said difficult child had been sitting there for some time and did not want to talk... husband started to take difficult child home when one of the office ladies said they needed the paper difficult child was holding signed ...husband husband said he wanted to look at it and he would have difficult child bring it back the ladies said that difficult child's counslor would call my husband tomorrow to let him know what happened???/ When husband got home (2 min Drive) he asked difficult child to him the paper it was an incident report where my difficult child discribed that she was walking back from lunch and found a nickel and this one giel started heckling difficult child and telling her it was her nickel difficult child tried walking away but the girl continued to call her the B word and many other profanities then stepped infront of difficult child pulled her from the hair and once the girl had difficult child bent forward she proceeded to punch her over 20 times on the head.... again a bunch of kids saw and no adults intervened difficult child had to wiggle her way out... difficult child walked to her class she was not responding...
husband was in a state of shock and anger when he read this he called me atwork I called the front office all I got was "No one knows what happened difficult child would not talk and all administrators and staff are in a meeting".... I drove to the school and met my husband and difficult child outside of school..
difficult child explained that when she got to her class her teacher called her counslor (its stated on IEP counsler is the safe person for difficult child) but he was not available so another counslor was sent to get difficult child this counslor walked her to the front office and since difficult child was not responding he gave her the paper to write what happened difficult child did but he did not read it he sat her in the office and left her there... difficult child sat there until school bell rang to go home all kids left and thats when husband called her....
We went into the office difficult child and Myself after she told me all the events that occured the office staff again said no one was available to see me and that no one knew what happened to difficult child.... The prinicpal at one point stepped out from his office to the lobby I asked if he had 2 min for me that my difficult child had just been attacked in school he responded "No I dont I have a meeting". Then he looked at his office staff and told them to get me my difficult child's counslor.... we waited
When counsler got to me he had no clue what happened and he wanted to start by first telling me about my difficult child bringing pokemon cards to school and how they had told her before not to etc...
Then when I gave him my difficult child's statement the one no one in school had bother to read he said he was applaeed and felt sorry my difficult child had endured that... That he had been breaking up a fight on the other side of the campus.. But that he would get to the bottom of it...
I took difficult child to ER they found 3 knots on her head ct scan showed nothing.... Police took report... I went to the school district the next morning to report the non notification to parents and that my difficult child had sat in office for over 40 min with no medical attention and was sent home with injuries to her head... at district they were simpathetic but I havent heard from them anymore?? I took difficult child to school the next day to try and Identify the girl the VP is always so cordial and social with me but all I got this day was total silence and no cordiality at all whenI asked her how they planned to help difficult child feel secure or why they did not contact us...she said she didn't know if that was true and that this was a product of society and she could not gurantee the saftey of my difficult child she was very dismissive...
I have IEP tomorrow I am so emotionally drained with this situation and I have a strong feeling the district and school are trying to sweep this under the rug....
The Principal emailed me 2 days ago that they had identified the attacker and they delt with her as their policy states... but that I should know that students said that my difficult child had been seen hitting the girl on the head and that is what had started it ... but that they were not going to punish difficult child?????
I know they will point out all of difficult child's faults in IEP meeting.... I need to know how will they provide more suitible supervison to prevent this.... difficult child has become a target and she is not going to sit and take it..... as it is she is considered the schools wierd kid
I need Ideas what do you guys have in place in your IEPS that i can use to help my difficult child???
Sorry for the long post... and Thank you
husband was in a state of shock and anger when he read this he called me atwork I called the front office all I got was "No one knows what happened difficult child would not talk and all administrators and staff are in a meeting".... I drove to the school and met my husband and difficult child outside of school..
difficult child explained that when she got to her class her teacher called her counslor (its stated on IEP counsler is the safe person for difficult child) but he was not available so another counslor was sent to get difficult child this counslor walked her to the front office and since difficult child was not responding he gave her the paper to write what happened difficult child did but he did not read it he sat her in the office and left her there... difficult child sat there until school bell rang to go home all kids left and thats when husband called her....
We went into the office difficult child and Myself after she told me all the events that occured the office staff again said no one was available to see me and that no one knew what happened to difficult child.... The prinicpal at one point stepped out from his office to the lobby I asked if he had 2 min for me that my difficult child had just been attacked in school he responded "No I dont I have a meeting". Then he looked at his office staff and told them to get me my difficult child's counslor.... we waited
When counsler got to me he had no clue what happened and he wanted to start by first telling me about my difficult child bringing pokemon cards to school and how they had told her before not to etc...
Then when I gave him my difficult child's statement the one no one in school had bother to read he said he was applaeed and felt sorry my difficult child had endured that... That he had been breaking up a fight on the other side of the campus.. But that he would get to the bottom of it...
I took difficult child to ER they found 3 knots on her head ct scan showed nothing.... Police took report... I went to the school district the next morning to report the non notification to parents and that my difficult child had sat in office for over 40 min with no medical attention and was sent home with injuries to her head... at district they were simpathetic but I havent heard from them anymore?? I took difficult child to school the next day to try and Identify the girl the VP is always so cordial and social with me but all I got this day was total silence and no cordiality at all whenI asked her how they planned to help difficult child feel secure or why they did not contact us...she said she didn't know if that was true and that this was a product of society and she could not gurantee the saftey of my difficult child she was very dismissive...
I have IEP tomorrow I am so emotionally drained with this situation and I have a strong feeling the district and school are trying to sweep this under the rug....
The Principal emailed me 2 days ago that they had identified the attacker and they delt with her as their policy states... but that I should know that students said that my difficult child had been seen hitting the girl on the head and that is what had started it ... but that they were not going to punish difficult child?????
I know they will point out all of difficult child's faults in IEP meeting.... I need to know how will they provide more suitible supervison to prevent this.... difficult child has become a target and she is not going to sit and take it..... as it is she is considered the schools wierd kid
I need Ideas what do you guys have in place in your IEPS that i can use to help my difficult child???
Sorry for the long post... and Thank you