I'm not sure how to do this one - don't want to be the meddling mother in law, nor do I fully understand what I should be doing for the bipolar stuff. My son was recently married, he and his bride aren't living together because he's on his ship (Navy), and she's at college. However, she flunked one of her classes last semester (I'm sure in part due to the wedding - this was a HUGE event), so she is now a whole year off in her class rotation and toward graduation. She is going to a very expensive private college out of town (which, thankfully her parents are still paying the tuition for), but my son and she are paying for her apartment, etc. She's not sure if she wants to stay at this school - she's been taking 3 classes to stay current in enrollment, and working the rest of the time at a bagel shop. My son will be deployed very soon, so having her transfer to a school in Norfolk is kinda silly. I'd like to "suggest" she come back here (her parents also live here) and go to one of the colleges here. She originally went to the school she did because of the "accomodations" they make for her BiPolar (BP) and ADD, but, honestly, I'm not seeing success with those accomodations. And I know some of the things she needs (how to plan long term projects, etc.) I can just as easily help her with - I do it for my other son. We get along great, and I love her to death, but I don't want to come off as trying to run their lives. My son and I have talked about this (without her around), but I don't know how much he's said to her about it all. He has said I should email her about the schools and such here. He was hoping she'd be done with school so HE can go when he gets out of the service in a little over 2 years, but it looks like that may not happen, and I'd hate for him to have to put his plans on the back burner. Anyway - suggestions? This is all new to me!!!!! She has some of the "grandiose" thinking that goes along with BiPolar (BP), and I have a real problem communicating with her when she gets in those moods. I'd like to leave it all to my son, but he's been going on short cruises, so is sometimes out of touch for days at a time. If she is going to transfer, she's got to get the stuff in place now.