Hello,
I am glad to read I am not the only parent who struggles to understand how their child has ended up abusing drugs and acting horrible towards them. I do not know where I went wrong. To make a long story short, I am divorced from my daughter's father who has anxiety issues and abuses alcohol. I am remarried. My difficult child has been treated for anxiety, depression, and drug abuse (mostly pot or prescription drugs). She is now 17 and has gradually moved herself into her grandparents home and does not want to return. We were very stressed with her here as her behavior was awful, she routinely broke rules, was manipulative, and skipped school. Nothing I did seemed to help. I have to admit I do not think I could stand to have her back acting they way she did. She doesn't want all the help that has been offered to her (has been in counseling, various doctor's, etc.) and continues to live the life she wants.
Now, I want to know something specific I am not sure how to handle. Her grandparents bought her a car, I insure her, so my name and hers is on the car. Since she is 17, and I fear if she gets in an accident, I would be sued. I know, worse things could happen, too, but my question is more about the insurance. She uses the car to go to "school." She is now what they call homebound and goes to a library to work on her classes online with a small group of kids and a couple mentors. Her mental issues landed her there. Would some of you take her off your insurance, remove your name from the car, and pull her license till she's 18 (which is in 10 months)? Or leave her on, so she can attend school, and be insured in case she did something really thoughtless, like drive high? I don't ask for help with her behavior only because I honestly think I have done everything I know to do.
Thanks in advanced...
One sad mom
I am glad to read I am not the only parent who struggles to understand how their child has ended up abusing drugs and acting horrible towards them. I do not know where I went wrong. To make a long story short, I am divorced from my daughter's father who has anxiety issues and abuses alcohol. I am remarried. My difficult child has been treated for anxiety, depression, and drug abuse (mostly pot or prescription drugs). She is now 17 and has gradually moved herself into her grandparents home and does not want to return. We were very stressed with her here as her behavior was awful, she routinely broke rules, was manipulative, and skipped school. Nothing I did seemed to help. I have to admit I do not think I could stand to have her back acting they way she did. She doesn't want all the help that has been offered to her (has been in counseling, various doctor's, etc.) and continues to live the life she wants.
Now, I want to know something specific I am not sure how to handle. Her grandparents bought her a car, I insure her, so my name and hers is on the car. Since she is 17, and I fear if she gets in an accident, I would be sued. I know, worse things could happen, too, but my question is more about the insurance. She uses the car to go to "school." She is now what they call homebound and goes to a library to work on her classes online with a small group of kids and a couple mentors. Her mental issues landed her there. Would some of you take her off your insurance, remove your name from the car, and pull her license till she's 18 (which is in 10 months)? Or leave her on, so she can attend school, and be insured in case she did something really thoughtless, like drive high? I don't ask for help with her behavior only because I honestly think I have done everything I know to do.
Thanks in advanced...
One sad mom