Where do I even begin? I doubt my story is unique. It seems there are far too many troubled young people these days. My story is long so I will try to condense. I have a son who is nearly 25 and he is basically homeless for the past month, couch surfing wherever he can stay. He has a Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI) from when he was about 10 years old. Started sneaking and drinking at friend's houses I suspect around 14. He is an alcoholic and uses pot. He has 2 felonies and spent a year in jail on alcohol related charges. His father died of cancer when he was 20 years old. I had divorced his father, a mean drunk, a few years earlier and I moved to another country where I still live. He was living with his grandmother for awhile and helping her as she has congestive heart failure and had trouble getting around. He seemed to be doing a little better there. They got into an argument and she kicked him out about 2 months ago. He had a lot of money from the accident and blew through it all like water on one big extended party. So he went back to the city where he has been staying with the same crowd who do nothing but drink and shoot heroin. He tells me most of his friends won't answer his calls. I wonder why that is? He listens to none of my advice. He will call me up all happy saying he had an interview and then a day or two later he'll call me drunk saying he hasn't eaten in days. I am really tired of the calls at all hours and he rants and sometimes gets belligerent. I have given him information about shelters and other help but he says he doesn't want to go to a shelter. I bought him a cheap cell phone and minutes, a $20 bus pass, some food, soap, deodorant, shampoo, signed him up for food stamps, and an outfit to wear to interviews. I created a resume and he was getting a bunch of calls for interviews that he went to a few and had excuses for not going to the rest. Not enough on the bus pass to go etc. I am really not sure what he expects me to do? I have hardly any money myself and I certainly am not giving him any to be used on alcohol and drugs. I know he lies to me and that is unfortunate because I don't know what to believe with him. I told him to make a will work for food sign to panhandle for some money until he can get a job but he won't do that. He told me the place he was staying was bad news and he didn't want to stay there anymore. He said he really wanted to leave the state because he is worried that people he testified against would see him around and do something to him. Honestly, I personally would never live in the city he is at now. I am to the point where he is nearly 25 and he is an adult and really these problems aren't mine to fix. It is affecting my health and life. I have insomnia and also being woken at all hours of the night to listen to some sob story and he implications he is going to kill himself or go to jail. I am working on a degree which is very intense and I am way behind as i can't concentrate on my work. He seems to think I have no life or somehow I am obligated to take care of him forever. My husband says I am way to soft on him. I think I probably am. I want to set some strong boundaries with him as in; not to call me in the middle of the night, not to talk to me disrespectfully, don't call when drunk, etc. I am thinking of buying him a bus ticket to where he wants to go, a bus pass for the new city, and a list of resources there and that is it and telling him he has to make his own way.