Hi there,ok firstly iam writing this on behalf of my mother right now, as she is walking around the house in a state of emotional distress. We are all a our wits ends and justneed help. My brother, is and has been tearing this family apart for over 2-3 years now. My mother, here on mothers day2008, is just beside herself, as my brother has once again does what he atm does best, caused intense grief. I will give some facts, andbackground. Ok, so he is 21, turning 22 this year. Has a girlfriend, and a son aged 14 months. My brother is going through some major emototional issues, it has been brewing for years, oh god years. And without any of us knowing he turned to marijuana. And did so foryears. Ok so i ont quiteknow what to say, as i just a trying to reac out for mum, sheneeds some help. she needs some help from other prarent who hve been here. Who can if not give her advce atleastgive her somewhere to vent. She is feeling she is responsible, and athough there may be tiny truth, as we all have a part to play in any relationship we are in, she has raised 3 other healthy children who are a functioning part society, and THAT says alot. So please, could someone help her. She will take ver from here hopefuly, but i just needed to do something for her, as i cant stand to see her hurting anymore and not know how to help. We are all at a loss as to what to do, and things just keep gettingworse. Im sorry if im all over theplace, after his blow up an hour ago, my head is just a little scattered. This is affecting us all. Thanks you all in advance. Rebecca.