Who said I was writing her off?
I am, however, allowed to be angry, frustrated, and resentful. I've bent over backwards for this child. She's been in and out of therapy since she was 5 years old. Tdocs have been looking for signs of empathy since she was 7. I've had more than one tell me they don't see any. When she refused to go and/or participate in therapy, I went so I could learn ways to help my daughter.
And what do I get for it? A kid who thinks she has a horrible life, who blames everything on everyone else, who can only speak to me without disdain when she wants something, and who thinks that I'm not really sick - that I "fake a lot of it".
That last part is the newest revelation. And it pretty much cinched things for me. I feel physically ill. My entire body is tensing up until it's painful and I can't make it stop.
Writing her off? No. But, I need a break from it...from her.