neednewtechnique
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All right, I am calling in the experts for this one, you guys have got to HELP!!!!
Our difficult child has been putting forth a GREAT effort lately to get along with her little sisters, and my husband and I have been ENCOURAGING this behavior in any way we can, so when she offered to take them to the park this morning, we thought it was a great idea. It is only a few blocks from the house and we didn't really have any plans, so it seemed like a good idea. Boy was I wrong!!!
Apparently, as the story comes from the 5 year old, she spent a great deal of time there crying because our difficult child left them alone at the park and went to the bank to get suckers and then left the bank and went someplace else and got a soda. Not sure what to make of the 5 year old's accusations, I tried to find a creative way to get the 3 year old to tell me without telling her what her sister SAID so that I could compare stories... So I asked the 3 year old if her sister was crying at the park, and she said yes. So I asked her why and she told me because (difficult child) left them at the park alone and went "somewhere else". Then I asked if she came back with anything when she returned and she said she had suckers and a soda with her. So I am convinced that my 3 year old and my 5 year old are not conspiring against her and I believe them. The question now is, WHAT DO I DO WITH difficult child?!?!?! She KNOWS this is WRONG and that it is absolutely NOT allowed to leave the children alone, and there has to be a consequence, but I just don't know what. I think she should be grounded or something, but if she is, it will definitely be for at least a week or more, and next weekend is the homecoming dance, so if I ground her, she will miss homecoming. Do you think it is too much??? It is definitely a given that although we will continue to encourage her to spend quality time with the little ones, it STILL must be done under our supervision!!!
I don't know, maybe some of you will have suggestions of a good consequence for this action.... HELP!!!!
Our difficult child has been putting forth a GREAT effort lately to get along with her little sisters, and my husband and I have been ENCOURAGING this behavior in any way we can, so when she offered to take them to the park this morning, we thought it was a great idea. It is only a few blocks from the house and we didn't really have any plans, so it seemed like a good idea. Boy was I wrong!!!
Apparently, as the story comes from the 5 year old, she spent a great deal of time there crying because our difficult child left them alone at the park and went to the bank to get suckers and then left the bank and went someplace else and got a soda. Not sure what to make of the 5 year old's accusations, I tried to find a creative way to get the 3 year old to tell me without telling her what her sister SAID so that I could compare stories... So I asked the 3 year old if her sister was crying at the park, and she said yes. So I asked her why and she told me because (difficult child) left them at the park alone and went "somewhere else". Then I asked if she came back with anything when she returned and she said she had suckers and a soda with her. So I am convinced that my 3 year old and my 5 year old are not conspiring against her and I believe them. The question now is, WHAT DO I DO WITH difficult child?!?!?! She KNOWS this is WRONG and that it is absolutely NOT allowed to leave the children alone, and there has to be a consequence, but I just don't know what. I think she should be grounded or something, but if she is, it will definitely be for at least a week or more, and next weekend is the homecoming dance, so if I ground her, she will miss homecoming. Do you think it is too much??? It is definitely a given that although we will continue to encourage her to spend quality time with the little ones, it STILL must be done under our supervision!!!
I don't know, maybe some of you will have suggestions of a good consequence for this action.... HELP!!!!