tryingtobestrong
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Not sure when the last time I updated about my son... He was suicidal a few weeks ago and I called for a welfare check. (He lives in another state) He was very angry with me over doing that and told me he called the police to see how to make me stop interfering, etc. I blocked his number because I knew he would be sending me text messages about how I have traumatized his life, etc. He was actively drinking and was on a 4 week drinking binge.
I still have his number blocked and I am not sure if I should unblock it. He is supposed to be seeking some type of treatment and is 4 days sober so he tells my husband. He is off work on short term disability and will need get some type of help.
My husband calls him just to check in everyday... Twice I listened in on the conversation (this was last week when he was still drinking). I tried hard not to speak but I did put my two cents in and then he hug up on us. With that I decided not to have any contact with him.
I am struggling because at Alanon it says to be patient and supportive of the alcoholic. I am not being those things. I am to remember this is not my son and to love my son.
How do I separate the two. I realize my son is in there somewhere but after so many years of manipulation, selfishness, verbal abuse, etc. it is hard for me to look past and try to be supportive of someone that is hard to see.
Hoping I made sense with all of this.
I still have his number blocked and I am not sure if I should unblock it. He is supposed to be seeking some type of treatment and is 4 days sober so he tells my husband. He is off work on short term disability and will need get some type of help.
My husband calls him just to check in everyday... Twice I listened in on the conversation (this was last week when he was still drinking). I tried hard not to speak but I did put my two cents in and then he hug up on us. With that I decided not to have any contact with him.
I am struggling because at Alanon it says to be patient and supportive of the alcoholic. I am not being those things. I am to remember this is not my son and to love my son.
How do I separate the two. I realize my son is in there somewhere but after so many years of manipulation, selfishness, verbal abuse, etc. it is hard for me to look past and try to be supportive of someone that is hard to see.
Hoping I made sense with all of this.