Remember my seesaw posts just a mere two weeks ago? (seems like a lifetime ago?) difficult child was staying, in debt and I was riding my white horse to his rescue... ANYWHO - the evening he told H he was in debt and failed out; H told him to print out the information, give us the access codes/passwords and we would figure it out. I paid of his delinquent back accounts/overdraft/visa to the tune of $1700 and he closed the accounts at my insistence. (I later found out he had no intention of closing the accounts. yada yada yada) Long story shortened - when I logged on to his accounts THAT NIGHT TWO+ WEEKS AGO to assess the damage, I noticed that the contact information for "text account alerts" was his girlfriend's cell number. (which he had been using when he opened the accounts having left his cell phone on our doorstep in Sept. We later sent it to him and he is still using it.) So I changed the text alert telephone number to my OWN cell number, figuring I was paying off the accounts and I wanted to be notified if his stupid landlord starting dinging the account for back rent even though I was paying them by my own check. And truth be told, the idea that he might reopen the Visa did come to mind. Guess what? He apparently reopened the accounts and I just got a "warning low balance" text alert. OOPS. I haven't spoken to him or heard from him since I kissed him goodnight on Sunday 1/22. (he left on 1/23 but never said a word, even when I told him I loved him and kissed him goodbye) He's since changed his login info, so I can't delete my number from his bank alerts. Apparently, he didn't look closely enough when he reopened his account to learn that my number was on the alerts. I really don't want to bring this to his attention. A) because he will be ****** that I changed the text alert number and B) because he will think I am trying to weasel my way back into his life and C) because he will think I am calling him to harp about the low balance. Can my board sisters absolve me from the duty to call him? And if not, can you give me the courage to get in touch and tell me how to do it and what to say? PS-I actually did email him today which makes me want to contact him even less. (See "B" above) He sent his younger brother 2 XBox games that they used to share (difficult child has since sold his xbox) but no note or anything. I sent a quick "thanks for sending C the games".