toughlovin
Well-Known Member
Gosh it is amazing how they can twist things around in an argument!!! So we went to the family support group which was good. I did check on a couple of things, and if he leaves they do call the probation department asap and they also call the emergency contact which I hope is us!!
We then went to visit difficult child... at first he was friendly and then he asked if we had brought his "property" and I said no. He said he wanted us to bring it for staff to keep in their safe. I ended up arguing with him about it and he got on a very high horse about it was his property, not mine (one is an iphone his girlfriend gave him which is what he was arguing about) and his choice blah blah blah. He knows I dont want to give it to him because I am afraid he will leave....and the iphone will give him internet access so he could reach friends. It is interesting he made all about "ethics" which is so laughable because of course he has no ethics regarding his own behavior but he knows I am very ethical and so that is where he is trying to get to me. Anyway I finally said he would need to talk to staff and I would need to talk to staff... so he went and found someone and of course asked the question the way he wanted it asked. It was a fairly new person who after hearing us argue and him getting very disrespectful, said she thought the visit should end. So he calmed down but would not stop the argument. She came out again and finally told us the visit needed to end and I said I agree and we left!!!
So I dont want to put the program in the position of being the bad guy..... but I do want some support in holding my ground from them.
I really dont want to do anything to help him to leave and I think giving him the iphone will help him. It may not be the reason he stays but I dont want to help him to leave.
Ugh....
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We then went to visit difficult child... at first he was friendly and then he asked if we had brought his "property" and I said no. He said he wanted us to bring it for staff to keep in their safe. I ended up arguing with him about it and he got on a very high horse about it was his property, not mine (one is an iphone his girlfriend gave him which is what he was arguing about) and his choice blah blah blah. He knows I dont want to give it to him because I am afraid he will leave....and the iphone will give him internet access so he could reach friends. It is interesting he made all about "ethics" which is so laughable because of course he has no ethics regarding his own behavior but he knows I am very ethical and so that is where he is trying to get to me. Anyway I finally said he would need to talk to staff and I would need to talk to staff... so he went and found someone and of course asked the question the way he wanted it asked. It was a fairly new person who after hearing us argue and him getting very disrespectful, said she thought the visit should end. So he calmed down but would not stop the argument. She came out again and finally told us the visit needed to end and I said I agree and we left!!!
So I dont want to put the program in the position of being the bad guy..... but I do want some support in holding my ground from them.
I really dont want to do anything to help him to leave and I think giving him the iphone will help him. It may not be the reason he stays but I dont want to help him to leave.
Ugh....
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