So we got here yesterday and saw our son. He looks good, has lost some weight, is tan from working outside and is building muscle from the hard work. He is obviously struggling emotionally. He lives in a small town in the middle of nowhere and is pretty isolated. He is about 30 miles from the nearest city and has no transportation except for the bus. He talked honestly with us which is new. He is in a different place than the past which is new. So that is all good. However he is kind of in a catch 22 .....the best thing for him has been the hard work he is doing. He loves the job, it helps him support himself, gives him physical exercise, he is learning a lot and I think it has given him self esteem. Yet he has a serious problem with alcohol and for the first time in his life he wants help for himself. He knows he needs medical detox...he physically does not feel good and he is scared for good reason to do it unsupervised. Yet most are 30 day programs which means he could not work. And then of course the real issue which he recognizes is the support after he detoxes. I would like to see him get into some kind of detox and then have some kind of outpatient program. I think he agrees this would be best...the problem of course is finding this! I would hate to see him give up the job because really in many ways he is doing better than the past even with the drinking! So it's good to see him, our relationship is in a completely different place but I am also really worried about him. And I am trying to think this through with him without trying to solve it for him.