My four year old boy's behavior has gotten out of control. I dont know what to do anymore. My husband and I have tried spanking, time out, taking things away (including dessert) and nothing works. I dont want to take him anywhere anymore I am so embarrassed. He wont listen to anything anyone tells him. He wants everything his way or he throws a fit and sometimes even hurts himself. He's gotten to where he constantly hits other kids and spits in their faces. He doesnt seem to care about anything or anyone. I just dont know how to handle it.