LittleDudesMom
Well-Known Member
Those of you who have been around here for the last six years understand how serious difficult child's condition was when I first arrived. We are talking raging almost daily, throwing chairs, clearing desks, threatening to harm himself, teacher's clearing the students out of the classroom pronto, almost daily calls to come and pick him up, etc....
So, since I'm working the book fair at his school during parent/teacher conference days, I asked his team leader to schedule the conference during his team's planning period. So, I met with his four core teachers, History, Math, English, and Science, on Tuesday at 10.
This is the first time in my son's education that I have heard not one negative word!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Here are the words I heard, "focused", "good group partner", "did great on public speaking project", "always follows directions", "never have to speak to him", "is a pleasre in the classroom", "I know it's a great day if I get a smile"!!!!!
He brought one B to an A, and a C up to a B! But really, it's not the grades that matter to me, although he is pretty darn proud of himself. I just want him to be emotionally and physically healthy and happy to go through life. I think we are slowly getting there.
Now, don't get me wrong. He's still a difficult child. He still has extreme social issues. He is just maturing to where he is getting a handle on himself. Holding to those consequences and expectations years ago just may be paying off. Additionally, the calming techniques and the ability to recognize his building frustration/anxiety that his therapist has worked with him on is part of that picture as well.
I'm sure you guys understand how meaningful it is to go into a difficult child teacher meeting with that "pit-in-the-stomach" feeling but instead walk out with a smile.
Now, only issue is are they now going to consider tapering or removing his 1:1????!!!!! I'll think about that tomorrow!!
Thanks for listening.
Sharon
So, since I'm working the book fair at his school during parent/teacher conference days, I asked his team leader to schedule the conference during his team's planning period. So, I met with his four core teachers, History, Math, English, and Science, on Tuesday at 10.
This is the first time in my son's education that I have heard not one negative word!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Here are the words I heard, "focused", "good group partner", "did great on public speaking project", "always follows directions", "never have to speak to him", "is a pleasre in the classroom", "I know it's a great day if I get a smile"!!!!!
He brought one B to an A, and a C up to a B! But really, it's not the grades that matter to me, although he is pretty darn proud of himself. I just want him to be emotionally and physically healthy and happy to go through life. I think we are slowly getting there.
Now, don't get me wrong. He's still a difficult child. He still has extreme social issues. He is just maturing to where he is getting a handle on himself. Holding to those consequences and expectations years ago just may be paying off. Additionally, the calming techniques and the ability to recognize his building frustration/anxiety that his therapist has worked with him on is part of that picture as well.
I'm sure you guys understand how meaningful it is to go into a difficult child teacher meeting with that "pit-in-the-stomach" feeling but instead walk out with a smile.
Now, only issue is are they now going to consider tapering or removing his 1:1????!!!!! I'll think about that tomorrow!!
Thanks for listening.
Sharon