This is my very first post.
My 5 year old son is what has brought me to this site. I'm not even sure where to begin. I will give you a little background on him..
He didn't talk until he was 2.5 (with the help of a speech therapist). He received speech for 3 years (finished last September). He was diagnosis with hypnotonia (low tone) and also received Occupational Therapist (OT)/pt for a couple years. His speech therapist who has worked with autistic kids for 30 plus years ruled out autism, but did say its a good chance he has add/adhd . She's Said he's just really stubborn & difficult. Recently we took him to a psychiatrist & psychologist which I feel was a complete waste of time. The psychiatrist didn't seem like he knew what he was doing. Through autism out there &the psychologist just a few test &"we answered a lot of questions. Her report said anxiety & mild ADHD, but I'm just not sure as she didn't spend a lot of time with him. Anyhow I want to take him to someone to get the RIGHT diagnosis and am not sure where??
Also, his behavior is out of control. We have tried different disciplines on him. He would get out of time outs. It tried spanking but he would just get more aggressive with me and hit me back. Any sort of aggresive behavior I do to him the ore he becomes aggresive. We were so desperate to have a punishment that we emptied a room of everything & put a lock on the outside. We would put him in the empty room ( with no blinds no nothing not even a vent cover as he would take it off ans throw it) and he just ended up peeing in th vent. Any punishment just does not seem to work. He ups his behaviors until I've exhausted all of my punishments. I recently had a baby last October & leading up to me having the baby his behavior was absolutely horrible. I had to get a new bigger car before the baby came and my son would flip out getting into it. He would bang the car take his shoes off throw them at me. Throw whatever he could at me in the car while I was driving. He would bang his head on the carseatmso hard and flip out to where I could t even buckle him in. Or he would scream at the top of his lungs.
Other things he does
Flips out when I put him in a time out. He will fight me with hitting me. Pulling my clothes to where he has ripped them, kick me bite me, throw whatever is in his reach. He's like a tornado when he knows he is getting a time out.
He ONLY acts this way to my husband and I. His pre school teacher and others that have looked after him have nothing but great things to say about him. They says he's an angel for them. They cannot believe what I tell him about his behaviour.
He has major control issues. He just got a ds and is obsessed with it. When I put the timer on if he sees there is 30 seconds remaining he will hurry up and give it back to me before the timer goes & then proceed to ask for it back and tell me he wasn't done.
He just cannot be told. No matter what if my husband or I try to control him in any way he just will not have it. We have to try to trick him into everything ex. I bet you can't eat 10 pieces of carrot. Or he's obsessed with winning. He HAS to win everything. If he doesn't watch out.. So my husbands has to say "I'll race you to the bath room" Just to get him to have his bath.
Getting dressed is another nightmare. I recently told him that he's not having breakfast until he gets dressed. Well he was in his room for an hour one morninig not even trying and then getting mad and throwing his toys & them, crying & throwing himself of the floor.
He will not play by himself at home. He has to be every where I am in the house.
He is extremely shy.
Some books ive read the explosive child, out of synch child, driven to distraction etc. I just feel like I want to understand him better and get th right diagnosis so I know what I'm dealing with. My husband and I just don't know how to parent him. It it SO difficult.
Sorry this is all over the place
Thanks for any advice. I also want to add, my side of the family have some mental health problems. Anxiety, bi polar, depression. I suffer from anxiety & in the past depression. I hate that my son might possible suffer with this :-(
My 5 year old son is what has brought me to this site. I'm not even sure where to begin. I will give you a little background on him..
He didn't talk until he was 2.5 (with the help of a speech therapist). He received speech for 3 years (finished last September). He was diagnosis with hypnotonia (low tone) and also received Occupational Therapist (OT)/pt for a couple years. His speech therapist who has worked with autistic kids for 30 plus years ruled out autism, but did say its a good chance he has add/adhd . She's Said he's just really stubborn & difficult. Recently we took him to a psychiatrist & psychologist which I feel was a complete waste of time. The psychiatrist didn't seem like he knew what he was doing. Through autism out there &the psychologist just a few test &"we answered a lot of questions. Her report said anxiety & mild ADHD, but I'm just not sure as she didn't spend a lot of time with him. Anyhow I want to take him to someone to get the RIGHT diagnosis and am not sure where??
Also, his behavior is out of control. We have tried different disciplines on him. He would get out of time outs. It tried spanking but he would just get more aggressive with me and hit me back. Any sort of aggresive behavior I do to him the ore he becomes aggresive. We were so desperate to have a punishment that we emptied a room of everything & put a lock on the outside. We would put him in the empty room ( with no blinds no nothing not even a vent cover as he would take it off ans throw it) and he just ended up peeing in th vent. Any punishment just does not seem to work. He ups his behaviors until I've exhausted all of my punishments. I recently had a baby last October & leading up to me having the baby his behavior was absolutely horrible. I had to get a new bigger car before the baby came and my son would flip out getting into it. He would bang the car take his shoes off throw them at me. Throw whatever he could at me in the car while I was driving. He would bang his head on the carseatmso hard and flip out to where I could t even buckle him in. Or he would scream at the top of his lungs.
Other things he does
Flips out when I put him in a time out. He will fight me with hitting me. Pulling my clothes to where he has ripped them, kick me bite me, throw whatever is in his reach. He's like a tornado when he knows he is getting a time out.
He ONLY acts this way to my husband and I. His pre school teacher and others that have looked after him have nothing but great things to say about him. They says he's an angel for them. They cannot believe what I tell him about his behaviour.
He has major control issues. He just got a ds and is obsessed with it. When I put the timer on if he sees there is 30 seconds remaining he will hurry up and give it back to me before the timer goes & then proceed to ask for it back and tell me he wasn't done.
He just cannot be told. No matter what if my husband or I try to control him in any way he just will not have it. We have to try to trick him into everything ex. I bet you can't eat 10 pieces of carrot. Or he's obsessed with winning. He HAS to win everything. If he doesn't watch out.. So my husbands has to say "I'll race you to the bath room" Just to get him to have his bath.
Getting dressed is another nightmare. I recently told him that he's not having breakfast until he gets dressed. Well he was in his room for an hour one morninig not even trying and then getting mad and throwing his toys & them, crying & throwing himself of the floor.
He will not play by himself at home. He has to be every where I am in the house.
He is extremely shy.
Some books ive read the explosive child, out of synch child, driven to distraction etc. I just feel like I want to understand him better and get th right diagnosis so I know what I'm dealing with. My husband and I just don't know how to parent him. It it SO difficult.
Sorry this is all over the place
Thanks for any advice. I also want to add, my side of the family have some mental health problems. Anxiety, bi polar, depression. I suffer from anxiety & in the past depression. I hate that my son might possible suffer with this :-(