This thread is for processing . . . I go through many emotions related to my loved one who is alcoholic - a feeling of anger just came up and I thought I would process it here: I was living my life, minding my own business - raising kids, raising you - did everything I could to support you - don't want to list all of the loving care and sacrifices, but there were so many - from feeding you, washing your clothes, changing your sheets, picking you up from school, getting you scholarships for sports, taking you to practices and games, doing homework with you, providing you with material to build moral character, talking to you, holding you, bathing you, tucking you in; feeding you, taking you to the beach, taking you on special vacations, giving you allowance, making you clean your room and do your laundry (because your mom would not teach you anything), attending your sports games, giving you gas money, buying school supplies, buying clothes, etc., etc. - I was "just your grandma," but because your mom did NOTHING - I picked up the slack - and this is the thanks I get. You KNOW being an alcoholic is WRONG - you are smart - you have been in four or more rehabs - you know how to stay sober - you just REFUSE TO DO IT. Cuz it's easier to deal with your problems by getting and staying drunk. I am SICK of your promises - your calling me to "help" you. SINK OR SWIM. I guess I did have to list some of the stuff I have done for him - because it is invisible - no one ever acknowledged it and in my family, I was scapegoated. I love my grandson.