Ok so here's what's going on. difficult child 2 is in 6th grade now, in middle school. Next year he will be in JR high from 7th till 9th. He's been in self contained classroom since 4th grade. The first quarter this year he had a brand new sped teacher...fresh out of school herself. First class she's taught. He did ok with her at first, but they ended up clashing very badly and he was getting violent with her when she pushed him too hard. She ended up suddenly quitting...they had a sub in there for a week and then pulled a retired Sped teacher from the office and put her in there despite her not wanting the position really. She's had 24 years of teaching sped class. So she comes in in the middle of second quarter and changes Everything. As usual, at first he was great with her, loved her. Found out she lives 2 blocks away from us. Now the previous teacher that she took over for was doing daily behavior charts and having them fill out their daily planner. She never sent him home homework because he simply will Not do it and it's a fight i'm not willing to fight. He had time in class to do it. On the behavior charts he generally didnt do very well towards the end of her teaching...60% maybe altogether, passing was 80% Now this new teacher comes in. Same behavior charts, 95-100% scores. She sends homework home every night, he still won't do it no matter how long i sit him there. The read and respond is what really kills him, he'll read fine but the respond is another story. She's pushed him out of the self contained classroom except for spelling and writing which he has an extremely hard time with. Now, he's on an IEP for bipolar disorder and writing problems. He's very behaviorally challenged, he needs constant eyes on supervision or he stops working, steals trivial stuff, messes with things, destroys stuff out of boredom or curiosity, lies and denies all of it even when caught red-handed. She wont let him use an alpha-smart because he hunts and pecks at the keys and takes too long, holding the rest of the class up. she insists he writes manually, and let me tell you, i've seen toddlers that can write as well as he does. It's basically illegible. He can have someone scribe a sentence for him sometimes in the Sped class, but not in the regular classes. So, He hasnt been doing well in classes because they all make him write. He's failing english because of the read and responds. He's not doing his science journal. He won't fill out word problems in math. He says it's too much work, she says hes lazy. So far she's had her teenage son bring his homework to him when he left it at school, called me several times insisting i make him do his homework, even came to my house explaining that 'we can't let him fail, i refuse to allow it. he's too smart to get away with this.' She sends long notes home on how bad he was in school and didnt do this or that... and on and on Now, they've decided to do his 3 year evaluation early instead of waiting till next year when he's already moved to the new school. She wants to get an IEP ready for the new school for him. This woman just runs rough-shod over me. Treats me rather like a bratty child myself, not doing what i'm supposed to do. I'm apparently the first parent she's ever had who refused to accept responsibility for the homework etc. and she's flabbergasted. Her words. One other note to make, difficult child 2 just before his teacher quit was admitted to the child psychiatric ward due to being out of control. Lying stealing violent at home and with the teacher and aide, several things. He's on different medications now, abilify and zoloft along with trazadone for sleep since he's up at all hours of the night getting into stuff. He's slow moving and overweight, eats everything in sight if allowed (got sick at church once when he and another kid had a eating contest). So i suppose my question is, how do i handle this teacher and how do i try to set his IEP up? She says the state of illinois is trying to get all kids out of sped and into regular classes. He is supposed to have the writing accomodations, but honestly she's treating him like he's just as capable as the best kids in the school and just being lazy. I dont expect she's going to be very cooperative. She set up an IEP meeting for next Tuesday. She says the original notice was sent home with difficult child 2...lovely. Apparently the school psychiatric will be off for the next month.