easy child/difficult child is not in a good place right now. Usually she is really hard to read; she can put up a front like nobody's business. Me, I'm a crier, if I'm sad I cry. She can build a wall with the best of them not letting anyone in.
Last night she came home and said she had a really sad day. I asked why. She said that is the problem with depression sometimes there is no reason why. I had her come and sit by me (which usually she won't do). I told her I loved her and she shook her head yes and we held hands as tears streamed down her face.
She told me she thinks she does need a therapist (which we have suggested since she hasn't seen once since she turned 18). I told her I thought it would be good to call her psychiatrist and get a suggestion but she asked me to do it so I will. I think it took a lot for her to even admit it.
We also talked about how she uses tv and reading as an escape. She agreed.
She has not got any friends that she does things with and outside of school and work is always at home, says she doesn't have time for friends. I pointed out gently that she does have time but that she needs to have the courage to try, that she is hiding in the tv and books so that she doesn't do school work and then doesn't do things with others. I also suggested that she start exercising. She has two places where she can workout for free. She agreed to try going with husband today after school. She tried to say she didn't have time at first but we told her it might energize her to get more done.
I hate seeing her so sad like this. I'm glad she opened up last night and am hoping that the wall isn't back up today. If you don't mind thinking a good thought or saying a prayer it would be much appreciated. Also any advice is welcome.
Last night she came home and said she had a really sad day. I asked why. She said that is the problem with depression sometimes there is no reason why. I had her come and sit by me (which usually she won't do). I told her I loved her and she shook her head yes and we held hands as tears streamed down her face.
She told me she thinks she does need a therapist (which we have suggested since she hasn't seen once since she turned 18). I told her I thought it would be good to call her psychiatrist and get a suggestion but she asked me to do it so I will. I think it took a lot for her to even admit it.
We also talked about how she uses tv and reading as an escape. She agreed.
She has not got any friends that she does things with and outside of school and work is always at home, says she doesn't have time for friends. I pointed out gently that she does have time but that she needs to have the courage to try, that she is hiding in the tv and books so that she doesn't do school work and then doesn't do things with others. I also suggested that she start exercising. She has two places where she can workout for free. She agreed to try going with husband today after school. She tried to say she didn't have time at first but we told her it might energize her to get more done.
I hate seeing her so sad like this. I'm glad she opened up last night and am hoping that the wall isn't back up today. If you don't mind thinking a good thought or saying a prayer it would be much appreciated. Also any advice is welcome.