I've looked over my cousin's accounts, received a rent renewal form in the mail (for May, for her NYC apt) and decided to lower the boom and tell my 82-yr-old cousin, P, that I am not renewing the lease. I have printed out airfare examples so we can fly to NY in the next wk or 2 and give it all one last look and a goodbye kiss. The renter living there now has not pd anything for 5 mo's. She pd for 2 mo's and that's it. Clean, nice, but can't keep a job and suffers from anxiety. Not my problem. P is going to flip. She cannot make decisions. Never has, never will. It's been over a yr since she's been in VA, and five yrs since her husband died. She cannot afford to live in NY and hire people to come into the apt. She is going to be devastated, because she's going to PT on her own and her walking is much better. She thinks it's all about the walking. But she has short term memory loss and a bit of dementia. I will tell her about the short term memory loss but not the dementia. She doesn't need to plummet to the depths of depression by knowing how out of it she was last yr, fabricating a story about a man in a white hat pushing her down and breaking her tailbone, when there was no such person. I am hoping I can be compassionate and sympathetic, but firm. She is throwing good money after bad (or is it the other way around) and has now cut into inheritances. I need to convince her that giving people money after you are dead is not necessary. Use it while you live. It was always a dream of hers, but she's never been an economist. Plus, I'm sick of her trying to buy friendships with money. That is so wrong. Lots more but you get the idea. I am dreading this but it is necessary. P.S. Can a moderator make sure these paragraphs have breaks? Sorry, but my computer is still wiggy. Thanks in advance!!