KTMom91
Well-Known Member
Over the past ten years, mother in law has "sympathized" with me about Miss KT's behaviors, and then tells me what I "should" be doing. Right...if it was that easy...but you all know that. Consequently, I don't like to go over there unless the whole family is gathering, because then I don't hear how I need to be more this, or less that. She works for an agency here in town that specializes in helping children with disabilities, so I couldn't understand why she didn't get that this is a disability, you just can't see it. But I have continued to explain that Miss KT just doesn't catch those social cues that others do, etc. and we're doing our best. I thought the subject was finally closed.
We stopped by yesterday, and Hubby's niece (the favorite grandchild, age 25) was there. mother in law asked about our trip to see the college, and then...it started. Miss KT really needs to be on her own, I wouldn't tolerate her disrespect, you just need to be firmer with her, there's a shelter in town...and then the niece started in. Well, I was a bad teenager, too, and when my parents made me move out, I learned all this, you should make her pay rent, it's too easy for her...I just looked at Hubby and blocked them out as best as I could. He told his mom to stop discussing Miss KT, that we're taking care of it.
I know I'm lucky that I don't have the issues that some of you ladies do. I know I'm lucky that she isn't strung out or in jail or worse. I know I'm lucky that she graduated high school and started college. I also know that she sees the world differently than others do, and that this difference will make her life considerably more difficult. I've long suspected there is more than ADHD going on with her, but she doesn't fit any criteria well enough for me to figure it out. I guess I've started mourning all over again for the life she could have had, if not for...
We stopped by yesterday, and Hubby's niece (the favorite grandchild, age 25) was there. mother in law asked about our trip to see the college, and then...it started. Miss KT really needs to be on her own, I wouldn't tolerate her disrespect, you just need to be firmer with her, there's a shelter in town...and then the niece started in. Well, I was a bad teenager, too, and when my parents made me move out, I learned all this, you should make her pay rent, it's too easy for her...I just looked at Hubby and blocked them out as best as I could. He told his mom to stop discussing Miss KT, that we're taking care of it.
I know I'm lucky that I don't have the issues that some of you ladies do. I know I'm lucky that she isn't strung out or in jail or worse. I know I'm lucky that she graduated high school and started college. I also know that she sees the world differently than others do, and that this difference will make her life considerably more difficult. I've long suspected there is more than ADHD going on with her, but she doesn't fit any criteria well enough for me to figure it out. I guess I've started mourning all over again for the life she could have had, if not for...