I had a PM from my son yesterday telling me that he is free and that he's trying to figure it out. He told me he loved me.
I replied that I was happy to hear that he was free and told him that his dad and I love him. I didn't have time to chat with him any further as we had to leave for a function.
I sent him a message today asking where he was staying - have not heard an answer back.
I don't know if he's on the streets or living in a half way house. Not sure if he is on parole or what.
He also reached out to one of my sisters. She shared in a PM to me and my other sisters that she had heard from him. She and one of my sisters live about an hour from the town my son is in. She and the other sister said they would like to reach out to him.
While I'm glad that my sisters are wanting to reach out to him I am also filled with some apprehension. I am the baby of the family and even though I'm a 55 year old woman, there are times that my sisters treat me like a little kid. Where my son is concerned, there have been times in the past where they have tried to "tell me" what and how I should be dealing with my son. These 2 sisters each have one child and their children have launched into adulthood successfully. They really do not have a clue what it is to have lived through what I have with my son. They "know" because I have shared with them, but they don't really know. My other sister is more understanding as she has a difficult adult child too.
The FOG is trying to creep back into my head. I know my son and I know how in the past he will lie to people about me and my husband to get them to feel sorry for him. It may be different this time. I hope it is. He's 36 years old!! God how I wish he would make the choice to grow up.
I will do my best to stay in the present. I have no control over what my son does or says to people. What I do have are boundaries. I will focus on and fine tune them. I am so grateful for this site and all you wonderful warrior parents who share this journey with me.
I replied that I was happy to hear that he was free and told him that his dad and I love him. I didn't have time to chat with him any further as we had to leave for a function.
I sent him a message today asking where he was staying - have not heard an answer back.
I don't know if he's on the streets or living in a half way house. Not sure if he is on parole or what.
He also reached out to one of my sisters. She shared in a PM to me and my other sisters that she had heard from him. She and one of my sisters live about an hour from the town my son is in. She and the other sister said they would like to reach out to him.
While I'm glad that my sisters are wanting to reach out to him I am also filled with some apprehension. I am the baby of the family and even though I'm a 55 year old woman, there are times that my sisters treat me like a little kid. Where my son is concerned, there have been times in the past where they have tried to "tell me" what and how I should be dealing with my son. These 2 sisters each have one child and their children have launched into adulthood successfully. They really do not have a clue what it is to have lived through what I have with my son. They "know" because I have shared with them, but they don't really know. My other sister is more understanding as she has a difficult adult child too.
The FOG is trying to creep back into my head. I know my son and I know how in the past he will lie to people about me and my husband to get them to feel sorry for him. It may be different this time. I hope it is. He's 36 years old!! God how I wish he would make the choice to grow up.
I will do my best to stay in the present. I have no control over what my son does or says to people. What I do have are boundaries. I will focus on and fine tune them. I am so grateful for this site and all you wonderful warrior parents who share this journey with me.