My Mom has been married to her 4th husband for almost 23 yrs. He passed away last night from pancreatic cancer. I'll be honest, he was a hard guy to like. Although he did have his good qualities and while I'm not sure I can honestly say what I felt for him is love, I did grow to care for him over the years. He truely loved my kids as his own grandkids. He is the only "functioning" grandpa my kids ever knew. husband's dad passed when N was just 2 and mine stays pretty much out of the picture. The kids all loved and adored this man. Now for the awful part. The soonest Mom can arrange for the funeral is Monday or Tuesday. No way can I go. I have final exams both days. And easy child has to work Tues. It would be different if we lived in the same town or state. I could probably make arrangments with professors and just schedule around the funeral. But I'm in ohio and my Mom is in Illinios. No way I can do it. I just contacted easy child, told T, and will have to tell N when she gets home. So far Mom is holding it together. Bad thing is this sort of thing can send her right over the edge. I've seen it happen before. My brother spent the day with her today. Hopefully there will be family there with her this weekend. I know my sis from Indy will be going home. Sis from Texas was on her way when she was taken from the airport and admitted to hospital with chest pains. She is determined to go home for the funeral and is pushing her doctor to release her. (this is the only other family member who actually realizes the extent of our mother's mental illness) So now I'm worried about sis from Texas too. And I'm feeling lower than a heel that I can't get over there for the funeral. D@mn, and double d@mn! I did ask Mom if she could either bump the funeral up to this weekend. Nope, paster of the church can't do it. Then asked if she could hold it off til wednesday. She doesn't think they'll wait that long. Ummm, yeah they will. My grandpa wasn't buried for nearly a week cuz he had 2 seperate funerals in 2 states. But I can't blame her for wanting to get it over with. It's been a hard year for her physically, emotionally, and mentally. I did tell Mom we'd do our best to head out for home by wed morning. easy child will have 6 days off and I'll be on spring break. It's the best we can do unless they somehow hold the services off til wed. But I still fell lousy about it. I know my kids want to be there to pay their respects and say their good-byes to their grandpa.