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Texasfilly79
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Hi Guys,
My step daughter finally admitted that she was sexually molested when she was younger. I knew that something sexually happened when she was still living with her mom, because of her signs. (always wearing a bra, even to bed, doesn't like being touched above the knee, when we do talk about sex she freaks COMPLETELY out saying it will never happen, terrified of the OBGYN , her personal hygiene was atrocious, never would change her dirty underwear and got to the point that I would make her give me her dirty and I give her a fresh pair while she was in the shower, will not talk about her body and would never use a tampon up until two months ago and she is 15, and found a paper in her desk drawer that stated she was touched and kissed when she didn't want too).
Today, it finally happened. She told me as we were leaving for a friends house this afternoon, that she ran out of tampons last night and needed some. I asked her what she was using, and she said toilet paper. I of course was angry that her personal hygiene was not where it should have been and like I have said a million times, something happened to her sexually while she was on the street.
She finally told me that her mother's brother in law made her touch him. I asked her how, she said, once they were wresteling and she kicked him in the "no touch zone". He told her that she had to rub it to make it feel better. (which she did) The 2nd time was the same weekend and they were in the hot tub together. He had her pull her swimsuit down, he pulled his down, and he then had her rub his genital. She became uncomfortable and pulled her swimsuit up then her aunt interrupted them.
I am the only one that she has ever said this to. I was very supportive to her and told her I believed everything. Not one word of negativity came out, but she did say some things that make me wonder.
When I asked about the forced kiss, or forced touching, she said no that never happened (but a paper says it did happen - could this be with a boyfriend that she was uncomfortable with??)
I asked her how old she was, she said 9, 10 , or 11 but couldn't remember exactly when. Only it was during the summer and her father no longer lived at the house, and it was before she was acting out against her mom.
I asked her about going to the police and she said scared too. She didn't want people she loved angry with her (which I can understand, normal response) but also said the she didn't want to turn her back on her uncle because she did love him and won't turn her back on people. This last response totally confused me but she did agree about going to the police.
She isn't known to make lies like this. Lie to me after being caught so she wouldn't be grounded yes, but there was no consequence associated with the tampon issue.
Do you think because of the whole hygiene issue she made something up to get me off her back or is all the response that I am questioning a normal response?
I am going to the school counselor tomorrow morning and her dad already knows, but if anyone has any experience, it would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks
My step daughter finally admitted that she was sexually molested when she was younger. I knew that something sexually happened when she was still living with her mom, because of her signs. (always wearing a bra, even to bed, doesn't like being touched above the knee, when we do talk about sex she freaks COMPLETELY out saying it will never happen, terrified of the OBGYN , her personal hygiene was atrocious, never would change her dirty underwear and got to the point that I would make her give me her dirty and I give her a fresh pair while she was in the shower, will not talk about her body and would never use a tampon up until two months ago and she is 15, and found a paper in her desk drawer that stated she was touched and kissed when she didn't want too).
Today, it finally happened. She told me as we were leaving for a friends house this afternoon, that she ran out of tampons last night and needed some. I asked her what she was using, and she said toilet paper. I of course was angry that her personal hygiene was not where it should have been and like I have said a million times, something happened to her sexually while she was on the street.
She finally told me that her mother's brother in law made her touch him. I asked her how, she said, once they were wresteling and she kicked him in the "no touch zone". He told her that she had to rub it to make it feel better. (which she did) The 2nd time was the same weekend and they were in the hot tub together. He had her pull her swimsuit down, he pulled his down, and he then had her rub his genital. She became uncomfortable and pulled her swimsuit up then her aunt interrupted them.
I am the only one that she has ever said this to. I was very supportive to her and told her I believed everything. Not one word of negativity came out, but she did say some things that make me wonder.
When I asked about the forced kiss, or forced touching, she said no that never happened (but a paper says it did happen - could this be with a boyfriend that she was uncomfortable with??)
I asked her how old she was, she said 9, 10 , or 11 but couldn't remember exactly when. Only it was during the summer and her father no longer lived at the house, and it was before she was acting out against her mom.
I asked her about going to the police and she said scared too. She didn't want people she loved angry with her (which I can understand, normal response) but also said the she didn't want to turn her back on her uncle because she did love him and won't turn her back on people. This last response totally confused me but she did agree about going to the police.
She isn't known to make lies like this. Lie to me after being caught so she wouldn't be grounded yes, but there was no consequence associated with the tampon issue.
Do you think because of the whole hygiene issue she made something up to get me off her back or is all the response that I am questioning a normal response?
I am going to the school counselor tomorrow morning and her dad already knows, but if anyone has any experience, it would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks