I called the county program that that psychiatric ER gave me the brochure for. They won't accept difficult child into the program yet because I can only give them two definite dates and instances where he has gotten violent since January. They won't allow me to give them dates that happened before January 1. If he gets abusive again I can call back with the new instance of violence, which would give me three, which in turn would allow him to be accepted into the program. When I called husband to tell him what they told me he said, "So it's okay for him to get violent as long as he spaces the episodes out far enough?" In the meanwhile, the county has offered husband and me parenting classes to help us raise a successful teen. Ugh!