It is seeming that the more my husband and I learn about and come to terms with the fact that there is something going on with our little guy...the more he shows us....Yep, Mom and Dad, you're right! And frankly, I'm just not dealing with it very well....I can not stop crying. I feel like I'm falling into a hole and am trying to cling on but just can't.
This morning, husband turned TV on because difficult child wanted to watch Rudolph (a new DVD) but when the TV came on, it was Nickelodeon and a cartoon that has no business being a cartoon where there were characters karate chopping each other left and right...Of course difficult child wanted to watch...I came in and knew that it was not appropriate, especially for a child who can be aggressive without any ideas. I told him nicely that the show was not nice and we needed to turn it...He screamed no and started to get irritated...I told him again...again screaming it is his favorite and I'm stupid...I told him that I was going to count to three and then turn the channel...he said nothing...I did and all hell broke loose. He immediately began to karate chop me like he had seen on tv. I took him to timeout where he hit me again and called me stupid and that he doesn't like me. He kept coming to the door of his timeout room calling me stupid. He wouldn't settle down...(all of this has happened in about 5 minutes) He ran out of the room and threw the remote causing the batteries to go flying...then hit at me again. I left the room where he and husband were and went to take a bath....and cry...He came in about 10 minutes later and said the was sorry and that he loved me and game me a kiss. The whole episode lasted about 15 to 20 minutes.
Of course, I know, I did not really handle the situation right. This afternoon, I checked out the Explosive Child from the library, and am only on Ch. 2 but still recognize that I needed to do things differently on the front end instead of trying to bring him back once he was out of control. We go back to therapy on Tuesday. The therapist, who we met with last Wed., is very nice and I'm looking forward to working with her.
Anyway...I just needed to vent. So, if you managed to read this far...Thanks.
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This morning, husband turned TV on because difficult child wanted to watch Rudolph (a new DVD) but when the TV came on, it was Nickelodeon and a cartoon that has no business being a cartoon where there were characters karate chopping each other left and right...Of course difficult child wanted to watch...I came in and knew that it was not appropriate, especially for a child who can be aggressive without any ideas. I told him nicely that the show was not nice and we needed to turn it...He screamed no and started to get irritated...I told him again...again screaming it is his favorite and I'm stupid...I told him that I was going to count to three and then turn the channel...he said nothing...I did and all hell broke loose. He immediately began to karate chop me like he had seen on tv. I took him to timeout where he hit me again and called me stupid and that he doesn't like me. He kept coming to the door of his timeout room calling me stupid. He wouldn't settle down...(all of this has happened in about 5 minutes) He ran out of the room and threw the remote causing the batteries to go flying...then hit at me again. I left the room where he and husband were and went to take a bath....and cry...He came in about 10 minutes later and said the was sorry and that he loved me and game me a kiss. The whole episode lasted about 15 to 20 minutes.
Of course, I know, I did not really handle the situation right. This afternoon, I checked out the Explosive Child from the library, and am only on Ch. 2 but still recognize that I needed to do things differently on the front end instead of trying to bring him back once he was out of control. We go back to therapy on Tuesday. The therapist, who we met with last Wed., is very nice and I'm looking forward to working with her.
Anyway...I just needed to vent. So, if you managed to read this far...Thanks.
B