Tanya mentioned on another thread about how things can be going along just fine, and from out of the blue, a communication with difficult child makes the plane shake. She said it better than that, but I certainly related. A few of you may remember that I received an email around Christmas time from difficult child's girlfriend, with three photos attached....one of their Christmas tree, one of their stockings and one of difficult child and girlfriend. I was happy to see them and emailed back and thanked her. sooo....I log into my account this AM and there are two emails from difficult child. One, sent about 1:30AM, was same old hateful stuff. Going through his litany of husband and my offenses. Nothing new. (He never mentions that he possibly did ANYthing wrong). He wrote that he does not know, nor does he care to know, if this was because of my mental illness or because I am just an a******. And, that he hopes, decades from now, we finally realize we lost a son just because we wanted to make a point. The second email was written about 2:15AM. Said something like, Sorry, you didn't deserve some of that. I just don't appreciate correspondence with girlfriend happening behind my back. Hope you both have a good life from here on out. OK. It took me until about noon to shake off the bad feelings. I am grateful to recognize the gaslighting. (Thank you, MWM and forum). There's nothing new here. Those who know me on this forum have heard it alllll before. But, Tanya's analogy about turbulence on the plane and then we will return to a smooth flight was written the right day for me.