At kt's family therapy this past Wednesday I told kt that she would notice a difference in me (she has already). I told her with therapist there, that I was taking care of me; putting my needs ahead of hers for the first time in years - ever since I've become a parent. kt was asked how she felt about this; it took a lot for her to answer honestly but first she said it scared her, then shared that it's about time. Consequently, kt went on to apologize for all the trouble she & wm brought into our home. I let kt know that before she becomes an adult I would like to have fun. Not have to worry about this & that all the time. I asked her to look at my sisters & SILs & their daughters relationships at this age. How much fun & how honest they were with one another. I told kt that's what I wanted with her. I would still be the parent, in charge but with a lot less worry & a bit more fun. So what do you think? I'm so drained from always having to walk on eggs about my children that I'm quitting the full time stint.