difficult child had been doing better. She started building a relationship with therapist. We dealt with school refusal by driving her to school everyday. Still some bad mornings but nothing like when we tried to put her on the bus. Then therapist moved and we could not see therapist anymore but difficult child was still pretty stable. Tantrums were infrequent and when they occurred they were shorter and less severe.
Then she got a stomach virus and was home from school for 3 days. She had a very hard time returning to school and separating from me. In the subsequent weeks there was a minor sports injury and a family vacation and this has sent her reeling to where we have been back to nearly daily tantrums, which have at times included her slapping me on the arms and kicking me or threatening herself with scissors etc.
She can also get very fixated. She was going to a sports event and was tantruming and insisted that I walk out the front door a certain way and was screaming at me and I had to come back in the house 5 times and walk out again until it was "right". We then went to the sports thing and she joined her team and performed amazingly. No one there would ever guess what we went thru that morning to get out of the house.
I have called multiple new tdocs that have been recommended to us. None are taking new patients. We are one month into a 5 month wait list for a neuropsychologist exam. I went to this practice because of a specific neuropsychologist that was recommended to me but they will not guarantee that I will be able to have the evaluation done by the doctor that I want.
husband cannot tolerate difficult children behavior. He cannot be calm when she tantrums. husband did not follow the majority of the tdocs advice when we were working with one. He wants to put difficult child out of house and screamed that at her during a recent tantrum.
The PCs are struggling. easy child 1 says I hate this family. easy child 2s teacher has noticed that he is crying almost every day in K.
My plan is to identify a new therapist and a psychiatrist. We have not tried medications yet because difficult child has been so adamant about refusing to see a doctor and husband has been reluctant. I also feel that we have not gotten a valid diagnosis and I am hopeful that the neuropsychologist exam will provide some information. If difficult child continues to refuse to work with therapist or to take medications then I agree that we will need to consider placing her out of the home. But that to be fair to her we need to at least have her evaluated and try therapy/medications that are actually addressing the issues that she is dealing with.
I have started seeing a therapist for me so that I can cope with all of this and therapist has said it is a titanic situation. I cannot save everyone and difficult child, the PCs, and the whole family is suffering. But I am the mom. I feel have to save all the kids. I know from this site that sometime a Residential Treatment Center (RTC) is the way to do that but as you know it is a hard step to take. And I dont know what to do when one parent says I can not live with and this she has to go (husband) and the other one feels that as her parents we need to step up the plate and that there are more options (e.g therapy and medications) that have to be tried first (me).
Thanks for listening...
Then she got a stomach virus and was home from school for 3 days. She had a very hard time returning to school and separating from me. In the subsequent weeks there was a minor sports injury and a family vacation and this has sent her reeling to where we have been back to nearly daily tantrums, which have at times included her slapping me on the arms and kicking me or threatening herself with scissors etc.
She can also get very fixated. She was going to a sports event and was tantruming and insisted that I walk out the front door a certain way and was screaming at me and I had to come back in the house 5 times and walk out again until it was "right". We then went to the sports thing and she joined her team and performed amazingly. No one there would ever guess what we went thru that morning to get out of the house.
I have called multiple new tdocs that have been recommended to us. None are taking new patients. We are one month into a 5 month wait list for a neuropsychologist exam. I went to this practice because of a specific neuropsychologist that was recommended to me but they will not guarantee that I will be able to have the evaluation done by the doctor that I want.
husband cannot tolerate difficult children behavior. He cannot be calm when she tantrums. husband did not follow the majority of the tdocs advice when we were working with one. He wants to put difficult child out of house and screamed that at her during a recent tantrum.
The PCs are struggling. easy child 1 says I hate this family. easy child 2s teacher has noticed that he is crying almost every day in K.
My plan is to identify a new therapist and a psychiatrist. We have not tried medications yet because difficult child has been so adamant about refusing to see a doctor and husband has been reluctant. I also feel that we have not gotten a valid diagnosis and I am hopeful that the neuropsychologist exam will provide some information. If difficult child continues to refuse to work with therapist or to take medications then I agree that we will need to consider placing her out of the home. But that to be fair to her we need to at least have her evaluated and try therapy/medications that are actually addressing the issues that she is dealing with.
I have started seeing a therapist for me so that I can cope with all of this and therapist has said it is a titanic situation. I cannot save everyone and difficult child, the PCs, and the whole family is suffering. But I am the mom. I feel have to save all the kids. I know from this site that sometime a Residential Treatment Center (RTC) is the way to do that but as you know it is a hard step to take. And I dont know what to do when one parent says I can not live with and this she has to go (husband) and the other one feels that as her parents we need to step up the plate and that there are more options (e.g therapy and medications) that have to be tried first (me).
Thanks for listening...