So today was our third family session with difficult child#1. Again, we talked about nothing of substance. Just that difficult child has decided that he wants to come home. Uhhhh yeah...that's all fine and great but it's not happening. Two doctors and another therapist have recommended a transitional living program and eventually independent living. The counselor was like "oh well he's going to be 18 soon." Yes he is! And that's why they need to STOP with the idea of home reunification and focus on the goal of finding him a program to go to when he's done there! The more they drag their feet the worse the situation will be. When I was leaving she was like "oh talk to your husband and let me know what you're planning on doing". I have told these people numerous times what the plan is! She pointed out that difficult child is maintaining there and doing really well and hasn't shown any of the behaviors that he exhibits at home! Ok great but I know the drill! He did the same thing at the Residential Treatment Center (RTC). Maintained, they forced him home, and he spiraled to rock bottom within 7 weeks. It's not happening again! I refuse to let them push me to take him and have the same thing that happened last time (or worse) happen again! Unfortunately I've dealt with the system long enough now to know what they're trying to do which is guilt me into taking him home. However, the difference between now and last time is that I have much tougher skin and I've learned to let go of my guilt.