ColleenB
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My oldest turns 22 tomorrow and I'm feeling rather sad. I haven't spoken to him this week, I am trying to back off and not text him too much.
We are taking him to dinner tomorrow. He asked if we could get him groceries instead and I told him we could do both. I didn't mind buying him food, I just won't give him any cash.
He mentioned the 200 I lent him last month... And said could we take what we would spend on a gift off the debt. To be honest, I didn't even consider that, as he owes us so so much more than that. I'm glad not to have to buy him a gift however. I think the fact he even thought of it is maybe a good thing?
I am really trying to find some faith in him, I think I've given up. I found out today one of the girls he has gone to school with since kindergarten has gotten a full time job teaching.... I have to say I am very envious of how proud her parents are of her. I've been friends with them a long time and all of their kids are great. My son and this girl were playmates as young children, and friends in high school. It all seems so unfair. I'm having a pity party for one tonight.... I don't want to say anything to anyone.... I still feel so much shame over his choices.
I want to feel proud again of my son, to know he is going to be ok. It's so so scary.
Trying to keep positive... But realistic
We are taking him to dinner tomorrow. He asked if we could get him groceries instead and I told him we could do both. I didn't mind buying him food, I just won't give him any cash.
He mentioned the 200 I lent him last month... And said could we take what we would spend on a gift off the debt. To be honest, I didn't even consider that, as he owes us so so much more than that. I'm glad not to have to buy him a gift however. I think the fact he even thought of it is maybe a good thing?
I am really trying to find some faith in him, I think I've given up. I found out today one of the girls he has gone to school with since kindergarten has gotten a full time job teaching.... I have to say I am very envious of how proud her parents are of her. I've been friends with them a long time and all of their kids are great. My son and this girl were playmates as young children, and friends in high school. It all seems so unfair. I'm having a pity party for one tonight.... I don't want to say anything to anyone.... I still feel so much shame over his choices.
I want to feel proud again of my son, to know he is going to be ok. It's so so scary.
Trying to keep positive... But realistic