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Like many parents here, I'm at a loss as what to do for my son. He trashed his classroom the other day and is currently suspended.
A bit of background info: My son attends the school where I teach kindergarten. Last year he was sent to the alternative school for knocking over chairs and his emotional outbursts. While I didn't want him to go, I was a new employee and didn't want to rock the boat so I agreed to sending him. I knew fully well, that he would complete the program in no time and return to my campus. He was extremely successful and completed the program in 13 days! But every time he was back at his home school he had flare-ups and would be sent back for a few days.
I had high hopes that this year would be so much better. He had been successful on ADHD medications and would be in the classroom of a wonderful, experienced teacher. Things are not turning out as I hoped. He has had severe meltdowns when the teacher has to enforce consequences for his inappropriate behaviors. (He intentionally makes noises and interrupts the classroom.)
2 days ago he reacted to a "change of color" for continuing to make noises by knocking over chairs, knocking over his desk, throwing manipulatives, and throwing school supplies. This was a major reaction to a minor offense. The classroom had to be evacuated, and he needed to be carried out of the classroom.
I'm in a tight spot. As his mother, I find his behavior to be unacceptable but I know he is not always in control of his reactions. As a teacher, I know his teacher has to think about the safety of the other kids in his classroom.
I feel like such a failure as a parent right now. I'm the teacher that students with behavioral issues are placed with! But here I am as the mother of a child with rage issues in the classroom. While I know what I would do for a student who exhibits behaviors like my son, I can't force another to react the way I do. It makes me sorry to say this, but very few teachers are equipped for dealing with students who exhibit severe behavioral disorders.
I have made an appointment with a specialist to look into an ODD diagnosis but it will take 2 weeks to get in. In the meantime, I'm searching for any advice/tips/help to keep my son from being sent back to the alternative school. While I haven't gone the 504 route, we have had a campus meeting to establish some interventions. I'm hoping that since some interventions were not in place (the alternative school teacher was supposed to come and observe his behaviors and give suggestions for his teacher AND he did not have his medication on the day in question.) I can "fight" the recommendation of sending him to alternative school again.
Thanks to anyone who read this long post.
A bit of background info: My son attends the school where I teach kindergarten. Last year he was sent to the alternative school for knocking over chairs and his emotional outbursts. While I didn't want him to go, I was a new employee and didn't want to rock the boat so I agreed to sending him. I knew fully well, that he would complete the program in no time and return to my campus. He was extremely successful and completed the program in 13 days! But every time he was back at his home school he had flare-ups and would be sent back for a few days.
I had high hopes that this year would be so much better. He had been successful on ADHD medications and would be in the classroom of a wonderful, experienced teacher. Things are not turning out as I hoped. He has had severe meltdowns when the teacher has to enforce consequences for his inappropriate behaviors. (He intentionally makes noises and interrupts the classroom.)
2 days ago he reacted to a "change of color" for continuing to make noises by knocking over chairs, knocking over his desk, throwing manipulatives, and throwing school supplies. This was a major reaction to a minor offense. The classroom had to be evacuated, and he needed to be carried out of the classroom.
I'm in a tight spot. As his mother, I find his behavior to be unacceptable but I know he is not always in control of his reactions. As a teacher, I know his teacher has to think about the safety of the other kids in his classroom.
I feel like such a failure as a parent right now. I'm the teacher that students with behavioral issues are placed with! But here I am as the mother of a child with rage issues in the classroom. While I know what I would do for a student who exhibits behaviors like my son, I can't force another to react the way I do. It makes me sorry to say this, but very few teachers are equipped for dealing with students who exhibit severe behavioral disorders.
I have made an appointment with a specialist to look into an ODD diagnosis but it will take 2 weeks to get in. In the meantime, I'm searching for any advice/tips/help to keep my son from being sent back to the alternative school. While I haven't gone the 504 route, we have had a campus meeting to establish some interventions. I'm hoping that since some interventions were not in place (the alternative school teacher was supposed to come and observe his behaviors and give suggestions for his teacher AND he did not have his medication on the day in question.) I can "fight" the recommendation of sending him to alternative school again.
Thanks to anyone who read this long post.