Hmmm, yes, of course, DDD the way is never quite smooth and clear with our dear difficult children, is it? Yesterday I had supper almost on the table when J got back from school - he ate eagerly and hungrily. Tonight, he was immediately demanding bread and chocolate; I said no, supper is ready. We then had a full-blown scene with him screaming and yelling, snatching the bread from the fridge, stuffing it into his mouth. I was not good at keeping patience (again). I finally got him sat down and he ate almost all of the supper, having helped himself to a yogurt beforehand and insisting on eating it alongside his meal. Whatever works... He then asked for and got bread, butter and chocolate.
This is a child that would truly exist on bread and chocolate if he could. I also see that my doing anything for him as a fait accompli is going to pose problems in that he will like as not have to oppose it. When I pick him up from school he is exhausted and probably mentally exhausted from having been good all day at school...
But I am definitely continuing with the eating supper straightaway - apart from anything else, he is hungry and should eat straight away. Means we don't eat together but that's not so important perhaps.