klmno
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difficult child is approved for medicaid! PO wants difficult child sent to state juvy- everyone else is ok with Residential Treatment Center (RTC). I rec'd a letter from Residential Treatment Center (RTC) and they have approved difficult child for acceptance. Assuming judge is ok with it and doesn't send difficult child to detention, he could go back to where he is now until funding is approved for Residential Treatment Center (RTC). The Residential Treatment Center (RTC) thinks that should take a week at tops.
Funding has to be approved by county team, which based on my previous meeting with them and PO, will not happen unless judge orders it or at least pushes for it, and of course, doesn't order detention. Medicaid then will reimburse the county team the majority of the cost. The remainder of the cost is educational and I have to wait until Tuesday to hear back about how to get the educational portion funded. All I know is either the sd pays for it directly, or they go to the county team to pay for it, or the county team picks up the cost outside of the sd's allocated funds. His home school remains the same.
Now, my concerns for the day- 1) I rec'd a copy of the letter from psychiatrist where difficult child is now. He lists difficult child's diagnosis's as Mood Disorder not otherwise specified, Disruptive Behavior not otherwise specified, and parental-child relationship problems. WTH does that mean? He says in the next paragraph that "mother is very concerned about difficult child's behavior and difficult child is concerned about the impact of his behavior on mother's stress". So, does that sound like a horrible relationship?
2) The mental health worker form our area who is assigned to detention, therefore she's on speaker phone at team meetings at difficult child's current facilities, was showing some attitude last week about difficult child needing to be in detention. She said most all the kids in detention had mental health issues or were Learning Disability (LD) so difficult child wasn't so different and he should be punished, too, instead of getting Residential Treatment Center (RTC). Then, the psychiatrist asked if she'd evaluation'd difficult child and she said no, she'd never met him. Today, I didn't go to team meeting but was on speaker phone and so was this lady. The psychiatrist said difficult child could come back there after court on Monday if judge allowed it. I asked if he put that in his letter because I had not rec'd that letter emailed to me by that time. He said no, he hadn't thought about it but I could relay it to the judge. Now, I understand that it's preferable for it to get relayed to the judge a different way, but this lady at detention said "psychiatrist, could you put that in writing so we don't have to depend on the MOTHER to relay that info?" She said it in a way that implied no one could depend on me to do anything. Well, she's never met me either, so where is this snotty attitude coming from? I wonder if she's that way with all parents or if PO has been bad-mouthing me to her.
3) The PO apparently called the sw where difficult child is now and wanted to discuss case and told sw that she wanted difficult child in state juvy. SW told her she couldn't discuss difficult child because I didn't sign a release form for her to talk to PO. That's true. I signed a release form for them to communicate with everyone they asked for, except PO. I limited it for sd to information related to difficult child's education (to include IEP, of course), but PO- nothing. So, PO asked sw to put it in writing that I refused to sign that release form. Now, of course PO wants this to present in court to try to nail me. I personally don't see why I would be legally bound to have signed it. I signed for the judge/court and GAL to have any/all communication and records, along with mental health profs.
PO didn't need to verify that difficult child was there- it was Department of Juvenile Justice that sent him. The GAL rec'd records and psychiatrist's letter and spoke with psychiatrist on phone. difficult child was not sent there until tdo'd from detention, which means he was already in a stricter Department of Juvenile Justice placement than being on probation. So, unless PO was trying to coerce the treatment team into what she wanted, why would she need to discuss difficult child's mental health treatment with them? After the attitude and pre-conceived ideas and judgement that was presented at the county meeting before, and the mental health lady's attitude toward me and difficult child, and thinking back over some other things- I think PO is trying sabatoge every effort to get appropriate care for difficult child, and she's trying to make sure the county profs do not listen to me.
She'll probably try to claim that I was witholding info from her, but I had signed release forms for her to verify difficult child 's appts and updates with his regular psychiatrist and therapist and to talk with sw at his last acute stay before this one. I don't know what she ever discussed with the psychiatrist and therapist, but she never returned the sw at the other psychiatric hospital phone call when we were talking about Residential Treatment Center (RTC) placement then.
Funding has to be approved by county team, which based on my previous meeting with them and PO, will not happen unless judge orders it or at least pushes for it, and of course, doesn't order detention. Medicaid then will reimburse the county team the majority of the cost. The remainder of the cost is educational and I have to wait until Tuesday to hear back about how to get the educational portion funded. All I know is either the sd pays for it directly, or they go to the county team to pay for it, or the county team picks up the cost outside of the sd's allocated funds. His home school remains the same.
Now, my concerns for the day- 1) I rec'd a copy of the letter from psychiatrist where difficult child is now. He lists difficult child's diagnosis's as Mood Disorder not otherwise specified, Disruptive Behavior not otherwise specified, and parental-child relationship problems. WTH does that mean? He says in the next paragraph that "mother is very concerned about difficult child's behavior and difficult child is concerned about the impact of his behavior on mother's stress". So, does that sound like a horrible relationship?
2) The mental health worker form our area who is assigned to detention, therefore she's on speaker phone at team meetings at difficult child's current facilities, was showing some attitude last week about difficult child needing to be in detention. She said most all the kids in detention had mental health issues or were Learning Disability (LD) so difficult child wasn't so different and he should be punished, too, instead of getting Residential Treatment Center (RTC). Then, the psychiatrist asked if she'd evaluation'd difficult child and she said no, she'd never met him. Today, I didn't go to team meeting but was on speaker phone and so was this lady. The psychiatrist said difficult child could come back there after court on Monday if judge allowed it. I asked if he put that in his letter because I had not rec'd that letter emailed to me by that time. He said no, he hadn't thought about it but I could relay it to the judge. Now, I understand that it's preferable for it to get relayed to the judge a different way, but this lady at detention said "psychiatrist, could you put that in writing so we don't have to depend on the MOTHER to relay that info?" She said it in a way that implied no one could depend on me to do anything. Well, she's never met me either, so where is this snotty attitude coming from? I wonder if she's that way with all parents or if PO has been bad-mouthing me to her.
3) The PO apparently called the sw where difficult child is now and wanted to discuss case and told sw that she wanted difficult child in state juvy. SW told her she couldn't discuss difficult child because I didn't sign a release form for her to talk to PO. That's true. I signed a release form for them to communicate with everyone they asked for, except PO. I limited it for sd to information related to difficult child's education (to include IEP, of course), but PO- nothing. So, PO asked sw to put it in writing that I refused to sign that release form. Now, of course PO wants this to present in court to try to nail me. I personally don't see why I would be legally bound to have signed it. I signed for the judge/court and GAL to have any/all communication and records, along with mental health profs.
PO didn't need to verify that difficult child was there- it was Department of Juvenile Justice that sent him. The GAL rec'd records and psychiatrist's letter and spoke with psychiatrist on phone. difficult child was not sent there until tdo'd from detention, which means he was already in a stricter Department of Juvenile Justice placement than being on probation. So, unless PO was trying to coerce the treatment team into what she wanted, why would she need to discuss difficult child's mental health treatment with them? After the attitude and pre-conceived ideas and judgement that was presented at the county meeting before, and the mental health lady's attitude toward me and difficult child, and thinking back over some other things- I think PO is trying sabatoge every effort to get appropriate care for difficult child, and she's trying to make sure the county profs do not listen to me.
She'll probably try to claim that I was witholding info from her, but I had signed release forms for her to verify difficult child 's appts and updates with his regular psychiatrist and therapist and to talk with sw at his last acute stay before this one. I don't know what she ever discussed with the psychiatrist and therapist, but she never returned the sw at the other psychiatric hospital phone call when we were talking about Residential Treatment Center (RTC) placement then.
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