Discussion in 'Parent Emeritus' started by pasajes4, Feb 1, 2016.

  1. pasajes4

    pasajes4 Well-Known Member

    My D C has had a stroke. He does not know who I am. He has had high blood pressure his entire life. I do not know if it is the result of drug use, or not taking his blood pressure medicine. It does not really matter. I have not yet come to terms with this and I do not know how to proceed from here. I do know that right this minute I regret every stupid argument we have ever had. This is my child that I have loved since before he was born and he does not know me. My heart is breaking and I would gladly take his place.
  2. in a daze

    in a daze Well-Known Member

    So sorry to hear this. Praying that he makes a full recovery.
  3. InsaneCdn

    InsaneCdn Well-Known Member

    Oh, Pasa. Hearts and care go out to you, and your son.

    This is a stroke. It will take time to know how bad the damage is, and how far back he can come. I've seen some pretty amazing comebacks from brain trauma - strokes, brain injury, and even an aneurism.

    He is young. This is in his favor. But right now... the waiting is horrible.
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  4. New Leaf

    New Leaf Well-Known Member

    Oh Pasa, I am very sorry, sending prayers your way and hoping for his recovery. My dad had a stroke and the same happened, he did not recognize us at first. He was able to recover and regain most of himself, and he was in his late 70's. There is always hope.
    Hugs to you, I am so sorry.
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  5. Tanya M

    Tanya M Living with an attitude of gratitude Staff Member

    Oh Pasa, I am so sorry for your heartache. I can only imagine how scared you must be.
    I'm holding you close in my thoughts and prayers.
    Please update us when you can.
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  6. CrazyinVA

    CrazyinVA Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Pasa, I am so sorry to read this. How absolutely heartbreaking. I pray he can recover from this and recognize you once again .. try not to look too far ahead, or too far behind. Just deal with this day by day as best you can.

    Thinking of you.
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  7. Childofmine

    Childofmine one day at a time

    Pasa, oh. I am stunned and I am so deeply sorry. I can't imagine your pain, grief and fear right now. I am just so sorry.

    Please take it one hour at a time right now. There is no way to know what the outcome will be with a stroke and amazing things can happen.

    My mother had one three years ago and should be a vegetable, according to the doctors. She is fully functional except for some "sequencing delays" and other minor forgetfulness. They were amazed at her outcome and would never have predicted it.

    I am not trying to Cinderella this and you may not be able to even think about anything positive right now and I so understand that. Please take care of YOU. Please know we are here for you all the time and we care deeply about you and about him.

    You both are in my prayers right now and will be for a long time to come. Warm hugs. We love you.
  8. SuZir

    SuZir Well-Known Member

    Oh Pasa! I'm so sorry this happened to you and your son.

    You are right, reasons it happened don't matter much. And you will never even know for sure. There are known risk factors for strokes, but some have those all and never have one and some may not have any and still have a stroke. Unfortunately it happened to your son.

    Others are right in that with strokes it always takes time before you know how much more was lost. Even if he doesn't recognise you now, some of the memory may come back. For many recovery is very good but unfortunately of course not with everyone.

    I will keep you two in my prayers.
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  9. Lil

    Lil Well-Known Member

    Oh Pasa! My heart breaks for you...he's even younger than my son, I can't imagine the shock you must be in! I pray his youth will work in his favor and he will recover. I pray for both of you. Words are so insufficient. :grouphug:
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  10. okie girl

    okie girl Active Member

    So..so..sorry Pasa.....holding you and your son in my prayers. Please keep us updated. ((Hugs))
  11. Albatross

    Albatross Well-Known Member

    So so sorry, Pasa. His youth is in his favor, but what a terrible shock. Wishing him a full recovery.
  12. toughlovin

    toughlovin Well-Known Member

    Pasa I am so sorry and I have been thinking about you all morning....
  13. ksm

    ksm Well-Known Member

    I am so sorry. Is this your 17yo son? I hope that with time and treatment he makes a full recovery and learns to manage his health. KSM
  14. 4now

    4now Member

    So sorry. Hoping with time he will be able to recover fully. Sending prayers and hugs!
  15. SomewhereOutThere

    SomewhereOutThere Well-Known Member

    I hope he heals, and heals fast.

    Hugs and more hugs.
  16. Calamity Jane

    Calamity Jane Well-Known Member

    This is heartbreaking news, Pasa. He is too young for this. Prayers going up for his recovery and your strength. Hugs.
  17. Hopeful97

    Hopeful97 Active Member


    I am so sorry that this happened. You are among others who care for and love you. You and your son are in my prayers. Keep us updated. My the peace that only God provide cover you.
  18. TheWalrus

    TheWalrus I Am The Walrus

    Prayers and ((hugs)). You are not alone - we are all here behind you.
  19. LoveSushi

    LoveSushi Member

    Oh Pasa. Many prayer and loving thoughts are being sent for you and your son. I hope you both can feel them. *hugs*
  20. Copabanana

    Copabanana Well-Known Member

    PASA, I am only now seeing your thread.

    I cannot find words to express how sorry I am.

    How could you possibly know how to proceed, what to think or feel? There are so many variables involved and nobody can know now what the effects will be.

    Are you with your other children? PASA you have been through so much these past months. You have gotten through it. You will get through this.

    I pray your son will recover completely. My son had a traumatic brain injury. All I did was scream. I did not know how I would survive. I did. So did he.

    Is your son still living in another city? Have you traveled there? Forgive me, I do not know the particulars, at present.

    PASA, You have us. We are here. Praying for you and for your son.

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