difficult child 1 is getting married tomorrow. His fiance also graduates tomorrow from nursing school. *** For those that don't know, difficult child 1 and his girlfriend "dated" in junior high and as high school freshmen, til she moved 2 hours away. They occassionally exchanged emails thru the years. They attended junior prom together. *** And out of the blue about 4 months ago, I got a phone call that difficult child 1 was marrying her before he was to be deployed (deployment, at the time, was set to be October). The reason he gave me at the time was to get more money while he was deployed. When he got back, they would then have a real wedding. *** Deployment changed, "real" wedding plans changed (the ones they deem real - the one that makes it legal is not what they are calling the "real" one), blah blah blah, but they are still getting married tomorrow at the courthouse. The "real" wedding is still intended to be when he returned from deployment, which will be late 2009 at this point (who knows, really, this changes monthly, at least). *** So, if you haven't caught the undertones, I don't think this is a well thought out plan - these 2 barely know each other...but, I will be there with bells on. But I am caught as to what kind of gift to give them, since they both view this as just a formality (for the purpose of getting her moved out there where he is) and the "real" wedding won't be until sometime in the future (my guess is it will never happen, even if the marriage works out, but I could be very wrong...) *** And while I'm at it, what in the heck do you wear to a "formality" wedding? She's wearing a sundress, he's wearing khakis.