Hi Everyone, I am getting to a different place with my son. Our relationship is better than it has been and I am letting go more and more. So my son texted me the other day, his girlfriend is moving out. So I am guessing they are breaking up! This immediately caused me to worry because his past history is when he breaks up with a girlfriend he crashes and burns. However this time he seems to be more practical... is thinking of how this is going to affect him financially and asked us if we would put him back on our phone plan and he needs a little help with rent. We had some small but sweet interaction as well in terms of our relationship. I realized that if he can get through this time without crashing and burning and ending up in the hospital or arrested then that is huge huge progress. I want to support him to do that so yes we are helping him out with the phone and rent. I know he is drinking and that worries me too.... but gosh he is no longer a kid he is now over 21 and so it is not illegal for him to drink. So I am staying out of that being any condition... because really he is across the country so I have no way to measure it, or even know if it is a problem. What I do know is that if he is overdoing it, then something will happen from it because it always does. So I am just letting it be, whatever it is and trying to be supportive and just love him.