My 16 year old difficult child son is expected to be released from the Residential Treatment Facility (RTF) in a few weeks, after a 90 day stay. He's been doing very well there and they feel that they can't do any more for him, also that if they tried to get the insurance to pay for any more time, they'd be laughed at. I think I agree, but, of course, I'm a little nervous. He is a teenager after all. However, my question for you is, which disorder is treated first? His current diagnosis is ADHD, Major Depression/Mood Disorder, and I can't remember the other one. Anyway, he has bi-polar coming from both sides (my mom and his bio-dad). According to the book, "BiPolar Child" if you have bi-polar in your family, you shouldn't take a stimulant or an anti-depressant. My son is currently taking 100 mg seroquil and 25 mg zoloft (weaning off) and nothing for the ADHD, per his request. My sister, who has a child diagnosed with ADHD and is very knowledgeable, is pushing me to ask why the ADHD isn't being treated and says that we're setting him up for failure if he isn't given anything. Uugghh!! I feel very stuck and don't know what to do. I know I can ask the psychiatrist and I will, but honestly, I think you all are much more informative because you've been there done that. People who know about it are not always as helpful as people who live with it. Also, if anyone has an opinion about music, I'd like to hear that too. My sister is also pushing me to take ALL of his music away. Ok, I don't like what he listens to. But, taking it away, to him, is like taking away his air supply. He lives for his music (at least that's what he calls it, I have another description for what he listens to). I'm just not sure if I'm ready to fight that fight, even though it may be worth it, I don't know!!! How do you know what's right????