There's so much zipping through my head right now that I don't even know where to begin. I've talked to two people today who are in one way or another connected to difficult child. The more people I talk to, the more I can predict exactly what's going to happen when he turns 18 in March. He's been argumentative with everyone whether it's at home or school. His case manager (who also happens to be one of his class "aides") told me that he's been yelling at her in the hall at school. He's mad because someone is in class with him, they don't help anyway (translation: they don't give him the answers), he doesn't need them, etc. The last time he did it, she was almost in tears from frustration. The only reason she stopped herself is that he would have taken it as a power trip. He argues with teachers, openly defies rules in class and does it at home too. His teacher of record called me today. It seems that difficult child got a detention but was telling them that he can't serve it because he always has counseling and dr.'s appointments. I also talked to the head CM. She has talked to difficult child's CM and knows how he's been lately at school and at home. We have an appointment to meet this week to discuss options. It's basically a formality though because we both know what's probably going to happen. The minute difficult child turns 18, I fully expect him to cancel counseling, case management services and possibly quit school. She suggested that husband and I sit down with him and do a contract. We know it won't accomplish anything because it will contain rules and he has no interest in following rules. But at least if we do it, everything is down in writing, he knew about it and can't deny that he knew of the consequences. He's told us that when he turns 18 he's going to get his permit which actually made me laugh. Ok, fine. GET your permit. But, um, who's car are you going to drive and who are you going to get to ride with you??? (It won't be MY car!) I haven't told him that yet but I'm about this close to doing it. His entire world is that when he's 18 he can do any darn thing he wants and no one is going to stop him. But even without it being said, he will still expect everyone to do for him. Not going to happen. We will do what we can to find him someplace to stay but he will be going out our door. He has no job, no money, no car, no license (hasn't earned the priviledge plus I KNOW he's not ready for it) but he's going to do whatever he wants. I have no idea where he thinks he's going to live or how he expects to provide himself with necessities. He qualified for a program that will teach him how to do applications and interviews and also will help him get signed up for Voc. Rehab. It remains to be seen though if he will actually do it. He's just acting so horribly to everyone right now. I can not and will not tolerate it if it continues. He keeps it up, he's out the door. I know it in my head and even though I know it will be hard to do, it will be the only thing we can do. But at the same time, I still feel like there should be something, anything, we can do to keep the inevitable from happening. He's not drinking or drugging so why is it that we can't get him to see that he's being an obnoxious, mouthy, disrespectful, defiant, pig headed idiot? He doesn't care about anything. Nothing we do or say get's through to him in the slightest. He got on the computer yesterday while I was gone and accessed a porn site. (Partly my fault because I forgot to put a password on the new computer) Honestly, the fact that he did it didn't upset me as much as his attitude about it. He laughed and told me that that's what guys do. And when I told him that the site disgusted me, I was informed that that was my problem. I know that we have to kick him out if this continues. (Which it will because it's getting worse with each passing day) I know this. But why has it come to this? Why doesn't he see that he's just going to dig a hole so deep that he's going to fight like heck to get out of? I know that at the very least he's going to wind up in jail. I resigned myself to that fact a long time ago. At this point though, that's almost my best hope for him. At least then, he'll have a roof over his head and 3 meals a day. Because when we kick him out, if he even has some way of paying for his medications (about $1000) a month based on the receipts that show insurance payment, he's not going to take them like he should, if he takes them at all. The thought of him unmedicated isn't a good one. If he's unmedicated, he could lose what little self control and impulse control that he has and jail WILL be the preferred hope for him. The alternative is one that I can't bring myself to even think about. My brain knows that kicking him out is the only option. The rest of me? Scared to death.