It's always the same story, it's never the difficult child's fault, is it? It's always ours or someone else's. My husband called our son and talked with him this morning just to see if he's okay and where he is. After talking for a bit my husband told N that it was stupid to have a party in our house (again) and smoking pot (again) which was the final straw that broke camel's back. All N could say was "I didn't know you'd be coming home". How stupid of a response is that? Obviously in his mind the only thing he did wrong was get caught. This has been a trait of his since birth. He was a great kid when he was younger, but never took responsibility for his own actions which was my only complaint about him. I'm sure eveyone has experienced the same thing, and I don't think it gets any less frustrating as time goes on. We've never had an "oops", "I screwed up", "sorry", or anything else. AAAARRRRRGGGG!