A pattern we cannot seem to loose: 1) Wife get an anxiety attack. She has a depression. Has been in inpatient treatment for 3 weeks followed by 20 weeks of intense out-patient treatment. She as a job with state grants working 20 hours per week. She is on medication 150 mg Venlafaxine (In Denmark called Effexor), but she sometime has these anxiety attacks, which she then have some panic pills for (Can't remember their name). She takes one and are in bed usually for one day. Her work is informed about her condition and that why it is a job where they state pays half her salery. 2) However, if the attack last for than one day our daughter gets ill too. I am taking fever (which can be measured), stumach pains etc. She has missed about 20 days this school year already. Because we have no system about a max. number of sickdays in her school it is not a problem regarding her education and she is bright so she can catch up with her co-students. But our family coach have mentioned that they could have some kind of symbiosis where our daughter actually are stepping in nursing my wife like a mother would do with her child. Have you experienced that in your family?