BusynMember
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Jumper just broke up with J. It was coming and I won't go into it other than to say his uber-jealousy finally did the relationship in.
Now I have a maybe silly fear.
Jumper is in a mostly white school community . She is quite popular and very pretty, but I'm afraid that no other boy will date her because of her race, either due to family pressure (although there doesn't seem to be much of that here...some parents have encoured their boys to date her) or that white boys aren't attracted to bi-racial girls that much. Maybe I'm all wet and worrying over nothing. The black boys have no trouble getting dates. They are chased after. It's different with the girls, I think.
I know this is beyond stupid, but I'm really worried about it. She is so social, I'd hate for her to be left out. SHE doesn't seem worried. *I* am. And I know college is different, but there is no guarantee that jumper will have the grades to go to a four year college. So she may never have the college experience. More likely she will end up in a nearby mostly white two year tech school because we can't afford to send her far away.
We have some black kids in the area, but they mostly grew up in the tough areas of Milwaukee and she isn't interested in them. She was brought up here. "Here" is Central Wisconsin. There is no real horrible prejudice here against interracial dating. I'm just mommy-afraid that the boys who like her as friends won't be attracted to her, although she's so pretty, and will not ask her out. All of her friends have a boyfriend or, if they break up, find another one fast. None are tramps. Jumper isn't a tramp.
She's a very nice girl with a great personality. but still....
Thanks, and, yes, I realize in advance that this is very silly since she is only just sixteen. But you do hurt if your child is left out. Now keep in mind that she has only broken up with J. for two days so I'm jumping the gun, but I have always worried about this. We can not move anytime soon and, as I said before, Jumper is not interested much in African-American boys partly because the ones she has met are not very nice and are very Milwaukee.
Kind words? I'm worried about my son's divorce and my grandson and I don't need this little itty bitty "crisis" (in my head) adding to the stress.
Thank you, thank you, thank you!
Anyone have experiences to put my mind at rest? Yes, I've had a lot of threads lately (sorry!!!!).
Now I have a maybe silly fear.
Jumper is in a mostly white school community . She is quite popular and very pretty, but I'm afraid that no other boy will date her because of her race, either due to family pressure (although there doesn't seem to be much of that here...some parents have encoured their boys to date her) or that white boys aren't attracted to bi-racial girls that much. Maybe I'm all wet and worrying over nothing. The black boys have no trouble getting dates. They are chased after. It's different with the girls, I think.
I know this is beyond stupid, but I'm really worried about it. She is so social, I'd hate for her to be left out. SHE doesn't seem worried. *I* am. And I know college is different, but there is no guarantee that jumper will have the grades to go to a four year college. So she may never have the college experience. More likely she will end up in a nearby mostly white two year tech school because we can't afford to send her far away.
We have some black kids in the area, but they mostly grew up in the tough areas of Milwaukee and she isn't interested in them. She was brought up here. "Here" is Central Wisconsin. There is no real horrible prejudice here against interracial dating. I'm just mommy-afraid that the boys who like her as friends won't be attracted to her, although she's so pretty, and will not ask her out. All of her friends have a boyfriend or, if they break up, find another one fast. None are tramps. Jumper isn't a tramp.
She's a very nice girl with a great personality. but still....
Thanks, and, yes, I realize in advance that this is very silly since she is only just sixteen. But you do hurt if your child is left out. Now keep in mind that she has only broken up with J. for two days so I'm jumping the gun, but I have always worried about this. We can not move anytime soon and, as I said before, Jumper is not interested much in African-American boys partly because the ones she has met are not very nice and are very Milwaukee.
Kind words? I'm worried about my son's divorce and my grandson and I don't need this little itty bitty "crisis" (in my head) adding to the stress.
Thank you, thank you, thank you!
Anyone have experiences to put my mind at rest? Yes, I've had a lot of threads lately (sorry!!!!).