Thank you for your words (what is a signature).
If you go onto your profile page you will see tabs. Select "information". Under that is the signature area where you can write what info you choose. This is the info you see under some members posts that give a brief synopsis of our family. CD is a public site, so we don't use real names to protect our identities.
Her passing was a tornado for my siblings who showed while she was in her last days of hospice and ransacked her house.
Oh no. I am so sorry. Unfortunately, I have heard of this more often than not. Sadly, for some families, a parents passing becomes a "free for all" more related to a game show than a dignified mourning period. I am glad Mom had a will and an executor (reminder to self). What a mess for you. I can't even imagine what my two would be capable of in their using state of mind. UGH.
The day after my mother died my father in law died unexpectedly at home. We are reeling and now I just find out Friday about the theft I have been almost unable to breathe.
Oh, WW, you have been hit hard. I am so sorry. First off, I understand the feeling of not being able to breathe. I hope there is someone you can confide in, if not, would you be able to seek counseling? Oftentimes, being able to have face to face conversation with another understanding person is helpful. This stuff is over the top, life shaking.
My dear hubs passed nearly two years ago after a third bout with sepsis. Those were some harrowing years of in and out of the hospital. The craziness with my two carried on throughout the ordeal. Drama ensued the night of spreading his ashes. I had hoped that his passing would be a pivot point, but alas, it was not to be.
I was having bouts of breathlessness that felt like an asthma attack of some sort. Especially when I was resting, or trying to. I found out through research that it is a symptom of anxiety, and who wouldn't be anxious with all that entails losing a loved one, and dealing with consequences of d cs choices? Where do we find respite and peace?
I hope you are able to take some time off from work, to sort through your feelings.
I needed time to cry, to pray, to gather myself together,
and to fall apart when I needed to.
I am so sorry for your troubles, WW.
I am glad you have found this site. I don't think there is anything we could post that would shock folks here, for the most part, we have all been through the wringer, and felt the reeling you write of. None of us are experts, just regular people who have been through some horribly tough stuff. Take what is useful to you, and leave the rest.
Keep posting and let us know how you are doing.
One thing that is certain,
you matter.
Be very kind and gentle with yourself, and make time to sort through your feelings.
(((HUGS)))
Leafy