We have been estranged from our daughter for close to a year. She is 45 married and has one child. We have visitation with this child but it has been extremely rocky and iffy , if we were to get him due to the estrangement. I would converse wit my daughter via text only which ended badly for the most part. We had an ongoing , hands on relationship with this child since birth and both myself and my husband were there for his first of everything. Here's my worry. This child within the first 5 years of his life endured a years separation which was initiated by my daughter but had later reconciled. He endured the banishment of his grandmother which was initiated at the insistence of my daughter. My grandson has not seen her for 3 years but remarkably still remembers. He endured the banishment of his only uncle on his fathers side for 3 years initiated by his parents because he lived with his mother and fully supported her. He would come to my daughters house for dinner and report things that were said to his mother. He got caught punished and after 3 years is now visiting my grandson once monthly. Thus child has endured mine and my husbands relocation upon retirement an hours drive away and within 6 months of relocating we were also cast aside. Due to us going and unresolved childhood hurts caused by her father, and the intense dislike she gas for her father resulted in he had to seek therapy but would not have any contact with his grandson for 3 months. The Rif deepened which resulted in not being able to go to their house to visit him, not allowed to attend his Christmas concerts . The only contact we had after the three month period was over was by our choice one weekend a month. His other grandmothers estrangement was caused by the intense dislike between my daughter and her mother in law. My daughter felt she was disrespected resulting in grandmother was no longer welcome. This being her only grandchild went through desperation and despair and did a horrible thing not fully understanding the ramifications of reporting an I feel unwarranted charge against my daughter and her husband. It was a foolish and irresponsible thing to do but it resulted in barring her fro seeing her only grandchild. This is the history. My daughter disclosed that she took my grandchild to a physiologist because of behavioural issues. They discovered he was suffering the loss of his grandmother and had anxiety issues. The grandmother was unsuccessful in court to get visitation because grandparents do not have rights in thus province and because she hasn't had an ongoing relationship with thus child. The court ignored the fact that the child's parents had barred her from seeing him as punishment for her actions. She pleaded to have one hour supervised visits monthly. Answer was a flat no. This child had endured more chaos in his short life than most. If I step out if line , I get punished. And that word is used , resulting in my not seeing the child for our regular monthly visit. I try to contact her to rearrange , she won't answer my calls or texts. Her bed to punish is of the utmost importance. Now that tbe child is showing anxiety my daughters ranting I'm to blame because I moved, the other grandmother is to blame because of what she did, her father is to blame because in her mind he is so awful she refuses to have him around. She is too busy finding whom to blame and not trying to find some resolution. I pleaded the other grandmothers case to my daughter to allow her a visit , not for the grandmothers sake but for the sake of the child. Now I'm punished because I have been I say and quote I was disloyal to her. The child can see his other grandfather once a month and the uncle who has been reinstated sees him once monthly. I know. The child is hurting from the dysfunction but my daughter thinks she's doing nothing wrong and her husband fully. Supports her. What can be done.?