Mumunderfire
New Member
Hi I am a relative newby here. I am going through an awful time with my son. As well as the day to day strain I think I am going through the stages of grief. He is my only child and was a happy kid. I brought him up well he had a lovely childhood I think. However after age 12 it all went wrong and in a nut shell he has been out of education for 2 years and has impending prosecutions for drug dealing. He has off the scale add but only diagnosed recently. He is involved with a gang.
I am coming to terms with this new reality after a couple of years of hell. My dilemma now is the guilt I feel towards my husband. We have been together for many years but only married and lived together for the last 6 years. He had a traumatic time with one of his own children before we lived together - his son has chronic mental health issues. My husband is getting to retirement now. He envisaged a pleasant life at this point and I have just brought hell on him. I know it is for better or worse but I feel I should set him free of this situation. I will never be free of it but it is my cross to bear. He does not want to leave but I think that is because he is an honourable person. Most people would want to escape this if they could.....
I am coming to terms with this new reality after a couple of years of hell. My dilemma now is the guilt I feel towards my husband. We have been together for many years but only married and lived together for the last 6 years. He had a traumatic time with one of his own children before we lived together - his son has chronic mental health issues. My husband is getting to retirement now. He envisaged a pleasant life at this point and I have just brought hell on him. I know it is for better or worse but I feel I should set him free of this situation. I will never be free of it but it is my cross to bear. He does not want to leave but I think that is because he is an honourable person. Most people would want to escape this if they could.....