This is my first post. Found this site while looking for advice in regards to my 19 yr old son. He has been crying and saying that he is worthless and wants to die and that he hates himself. He has progressively been getting into trouble and using marijuana and other drugs. He refuses therapy. He has a huge chip on his shoulder and is spiraling out of control as I helplessly watch. Our home is tense and his negative attitude and demeanor bring everyone down.He did graduate high school and currently has a part time job. He starts a community work program tomorrow at 7 am which he is doing in Lieu of jail as he was recently sentenced to 60 days in jail for selling marijuana.My husband and I will need to drive him daily because he totaled his car last year while he was high on Xanax. Today he is moody and somber. There are no words for me to say to him to make it better. As a mom, I struggle watching him go deeper into a depression. But if he refuses treatment, what more can I do?