I don't even know what to post here. I'm learning about detachment out of self preservation because I physically hurt from all this stress and heartache. I am feeling selfish but also guilty because I really just don't want to take her in or bail her out. She isn't even returning my calls. I don't know if there is mental illness. Surely there is an anxiety disorder and depression. I'm barely getting out of bed myself. I went to my first CODA meeting but I don't know if I'm codependent or not. I want to do what's best for her and every book says you need to let them bottom out. But I'm so scared for her! And, frankly, I'm scared for me too. I have an appointment for counseling next week but what really helps is knowing there are others out there who are faced this and survived. Burying myself in my pillows.