If I ever, ever wondered whether difficult child's issues might have possibly been inherited....that has been answered most definitively once and for all by my scheming, conniving, manipulative MOTHER! GRRRR!!! As you may remember, we are planning a trip soon to visit "family" (I'll use that term loosely...) My mother made a very big deal about not being able to get time off work to see us. In fact, she let us know that even a few hours in a restaurant would probably be impossible to manage. OK - fine. We have not let Mother ruin our plans. We have made arrangements to meet up with other folks who would LOVE to see us and we have scheduled some fun events for our trip. Word gets back to Mother. Mother decides that she indeed WILL be able to see us - but only for a few brief hours. She is going to host a dinner and arrange it so that IF we want to see any of HER relatives - they will all need to meet at Mother's house during those couple of hours. Mother will plan it all. Then...she told us not to expect to see any of them because that will be SOOOOO difficult because we did not give them enough notice. No problem - we told her. We've already made plans to meet up with those folks....so thanks anyway! Mother is not happy. Mother calls my sister and tells Sister the wrong dates for our visit. Mother tells Sister that our visit will conflict with a planned trip. Mother tells Sister that she needs to cancel her plans to visit with us. Mother calls grandparents. Tells them we want to stay at their house for a week. This is not true - but it stresses Grandparents out. Mother calls me. Tells me Grandparents are dying. If we visit them, the strain - will KILL them. Mother says that if we visit dying Grandparents, we will be soley responsible for causing their DEATH. Yikes! Geez - I can't help but feel that it's just too bad our visit is not causing some of that "deathly strain" for Mother!